i am a punjabi boy but girl is not punjabi if our parents r not ready den wat can i do
2007-01-24 05:25:12 · 28 answers · asked by g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you mean Caste, not cast. That old system belongs in the trash, and there is no better time than now to kill it off. Love can defeat the ignorance of the past, I hope you can find a way.
2007-01-24 05:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
it must be hard for you over there as this is a very important matter however you can be a revolutionary and go against the norm...they say love conquers all and if you truly love her nothing will stop that...i think you should decide between you and her if you are ready to take on the world you live in to be together and if so...do what ever it takes to make this happen. you could always come and live in australia or another country where it will be looked on as normal...you need to discuss this with your parents and i know this will be very hard and only you know how they will react however you need to remember that this is your life not thiers and do what is best for you and your beautiful woman!
good luck...i am sending you love and strength and pray you will have the courage to follow your heart and not tradition!
2007-01-24 05:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by Letitia L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are a punjabi boy, talk like a man. you seem to wimper like a chick. See any hindi movie, the parents are always against the marriage, but in the end the boy marries the girl of his choice. U must say your point of view, and persist and go against odds, to marry the girl of your dream.
I have seen punjabi boy, carrying away their beloved, from a marriage hall, in front of all the public. What is the problem now ? Try to convince your parents or go against their wishes, it is your life.
2007-01-24 19:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In America you are free to date whom ever you like.
I am not downing your religious beliefs, but I couldn't imagine ever being "born" into my role of life. I've learned about the caste system and could not fathom not even being able to speak to somebody because they're an "untouchable". what is a punjabi? High class or low class? I say do what you feel is right. Our greatest heroes were movers and shakers, so hey, shake things up a bit!
2007-01-24 05:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ BuffaloGirl ♥ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are still stuck on the the caste, so called curse of the society, I suggest you better recoil yourself and go to sleep. To be in love one has to be a perfect human being. If you cannot get out of the caste stuff, you cannot love anybody.
And about your and her parents... Well you you aree really good to them, they would definitely ignore such foolish matter. That's the basic rule. Nobody ever says no to a really good humnan being. Atleast I would never. If a person is really good to me, I'd rather jump in a well if taht person wants me too. Because I'd be confident that it would be good for me. So, both of you, you and your girl, gotta be good to your parents so that they are confident that you can never make wrong decisions. Parents usually resent their childrens wishes regarding marraige cos it's the most important part of your life. One wrong decision and your life is hell. They don't trust that you are wise enough and tehy would hate to see you experience hell throughout your life.
All the best...
:-)
2007-01-28 02:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are earning well and can run the household without your parents support, then go ahead and marry your sweet heart. If not, wait for two or more years till you can stand on you own feet and then marry the girl of your choice.
2007-01-28 05:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by spiritual healer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not bounded to Castesim or racism and other similar type problems .Love is pure its next to God.
If you love her keep loving If she also love you that is to fine.
But you might be loving your family and she too like you may .
Think from your eternal feelings and you both decide how to carry your love further.
I think you should think of marrying each other and if not able first become able to do so. and then try to convince your parents and then what they decide accept it because parents are God like and love comes after God
And at that stage you can think love is another name of sacrifice . Love should not have Only end of marriage it may limit to friendship and friends are to love forever.
And thus you can continue to love her and get loved by her for whole life .
Your love can also be in limit of social constraint.
Talk to each other and finally take decision remembering your duty toward your parents and their social reputation and your other family members too.
2007-01-24 18:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by deepak s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah well if you are a boy then that means you still have to be living under your parents home. So why dont you ask your parents for this advice. Good luck
2007-01-24 15:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all caste is not d matter if u loves her truly. 1st get to know ur parents view about intercaste marriage indirectly without telling them. if they r positive then tell them otherwise if u truly loves her and want to be with her & financially ok then get married to her n take her home if ur parents angry also. 1 day they will get agree. dont take any chance whatever u do b careful.
Gud luck.
2007-01-24 16:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by talli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love but are you asked that girl that she loves you? Caste is no matter in today's life. Love depends on understanding. If you understand each other well, than you will be successful in life. To know your parents thinking ask them what will they do if you marry with another caste girl?
2007-01-24 06:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by kuldeepgaur 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋