How much time should one wait before saying, "I Love You."?

Question

I've been dating someone for only a month and feel compeled to say those 3 little words...but don't want to run him off?

Answer 1

You feel it..when you feel it. and honestly...tell em when you feel it. No sense getting dragged along if your significant other has no intention of returning the feeling. It might take him/her longer than you to feel it, but if they have no intention of getting there..or will get scared off..that person isn't right for you. Honestly it took me two days to figure out I was in love with my girlfriend (i've been with other girls for months and never felt it), and we've been together for 7 months and counting. good luck!

Answer 2

Well, it is true that people tend to run off when they hear those 3 words, but only those who don't feel it back. Make sure he has feelings for u and cares about you before you go ahead and say it. Once you feel that security go ahead and say it...it's such a great feeling! Good luck.

Answer 3

Honestly, no one can really tell you when the perfect time is to tell someone that you love them. If you are really nervous about scaring him off then try starting off real slow. For example, try telling him that you really care about him and are very happy to be with him. Don't gush it all up and make it an hour long convo about how you feel. This will make him feel good and wanted.

Answer 4

A month is probably OK.

There is a big different between love and lust and it is important to recognise if your love is based on a physical attraction or on personality.

Rather than risk scaring him off why dont you just ask him how he feels that the relationship is going?

Answer 5

Folks in this generation says "I love you " too easily. Just like how they use sex so casually, like saying "hello" In this life everyone wants to do things fast and its no good, Fast food, fast banking, faster cars, faster communicating everything so fast even fast sex.
No wonder so many relationships fall by the wayside.
It goes like this:
Boy meet girls, they laugh and dance, and maybe kiss
They have sex very soon.
They find one another boring after the sex, they seek new pastures.
This is how animals do it.
People, especially women should take pride witht heir private parts and dont share it with evry Tom ,Dick & Eve.
Its sad what we have become.

Answer 6

Start by using the "L" word in different ways. Like "I love the way you look at me" or "I love watching you with kids". See how receptive he is to the word used in a context that is directed towards him and then make your call.

Answer 7

You should wait until it feels right to you.

My parents were engaged after 3 months... They are still happily married 30yrs later.

If you are afraid to run him off, then maybe you aren't getting the same vibes back from him.

Answer 8

If you feel it, express yourself. this ill give you the opportunity to learn something new about this guy vased on how he reacts. he may not feel the same way, so dont feel bad if he doesnt return the saying. my guy said it to me 1st and i was shocked (although i was like you and didnt want to scare him- and come to find out he felt the same way all along!). i didnt know what to say at first so i said nothing- then said it back shortly after. just get it out.

Answer 9

Please, don't say you love this person after 1 month. It's much too soon. Give the relationship time to grow, before you start falling in love.

Answer 10

i was always told to say what you feel so go for it!!! just let him know thats how you feel and make him feel that he doesnt need to be obligated to say it back unless he feels the same. but, if he doesnt say it back and you feel ok with that, just tell him when he is ready and that your feelings will not change for him. good luck!