I'm 15, and I am bisexual, but I can't see myself getting married ... or being together with another man for the rest of my life. I know that one day I want to find a person to marry, but I want it to be a woman, not because it's seen as the normal thing to do, but beacuse I want to marry a woman and not a guy. But I AM bisexual, so I would still be sexually attracted to men too ... if a guy loved YOU and only you, and he told you he was biesxual would you still like him? As long as I was committed to that one person, would it matter if I am bisexual?
2007-01-24 05:16:31 · 11 answers · asked by Joseph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i can speak from experience here. i to am bi and am older then you but will try to help you out. at 15 you dont need to concern yourself to much yet with how itll afect youre relationships. but when you get to where youre looking at marrige and things. this is what i did. find a girl thats bi to or thats willing to have 3some type experiences with you. the girl i was married to knew i was bi and i done things with her that way theres no temptation there to sneak around or anything. just make sure youre oen and honest with yer partners and from my experience alot of girls are understanding about the subject. its not considered a freakish things like it used to be. hoope this helps you out.
2007-01-24 05:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by maps_ghosthunter_ryan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being as your only 15 you really don't have to worry yourself about marriage.
I am not bisexual, 100% heterosexual woman. I would be afraid to get into a relationship with a man in your position because I would be concerned that u have needs that I would not be able to meet therefore one day you may stray. If you are 100% sure you can be faithful to a woman/man then you get married, if there is any chance you may want to sample the goods on the other side you don't make the committment, its not fair to the woman/man nor yourself because you would be fooling both of you and sneaking, cheating and lying is no way to live your life! It will work out when the times comes don't sweat it now!
2007-01-24 05:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, If a guy told me he was bisexual then I would still be tight with him. It's the lying and sneaking around that I don't like. If he's honest then I will definitely respect him because he respected me enough to tell me.
And yes you can be bisexual and be committed to only one person and that would be great. It's the thought that because you are bisexual you should be able to have both at the same time that's the killer. Being in a relationship is making that commitment. If you want to go with a guy (just like if you wanted to go with another girl or if I wanted to go with a different guy) end the relationship your in first.
2007-01-24 05:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Vivian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What matters in a relationship is who you love, not who else you're attracted to. Any woman who loves you will not care about any of that.
I wonder why you are so sure about wanting a committed relationship with a woman, but being open to casual relationships with men? I hope you would never cheat on a girlfriend or wife, but you are very young and have a lot to experience - especially college dorm life. Even straight people hook up with roommates, etc, and do things they didn't think they were capable of.
Just don't restrict yourself too much. Experiment, explore, and be open to finding the right person to spend you life with, without sticking to a specific list of characteristics. And good for you for being open and out about your sexuality - we need more kids like you in high schools!
2007-01-24 05:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mysterious Gryphon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, like with any other relationship, as long as you are faithful and commited to your future wife, be upfront and she should understand. Everyone has skeletons in their closet and most of making a marriage work is communication, comprimise and understanding.
For you though, you should consider things through. Will you be happy with only being with a woman forever? How will you deal with things when you have strong sexual needs for a man? You are still young and have time to figure this out. Just take it day by day and see what fits you best. Maybe a commited marriage to either sex is not right for you. Or maybe after you have more experiences you will view things diferently. Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-24 05:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because attraction doesn't mean you are going to cheat on your wife. Its the same as a man and women who are still attracted to other people even though they are in a committed relationship its only natural, what is wrong is if you act on those feelings. But to be honest, you are so young, you may find that you would rather just be with a man or a women. What I'm trying to say is don't worry about marriage because its very far away. Enjoy yourself now and as you grow older you'll find yourself with great people who will love you no matter what.
2007-01-24 05:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the earrings mean -- different men use them in different ways. I remember in the 1980s, supposedly a man was straight if the earring was in his left ear, and gay if the earring was in his right ear. Or maybe I have the meanings reversed? Gosh, I'm starting to sound like an old fossil! LOL Anyway, as for your other question, a man who is bisexual is absolutely capable of loving a woman in a romantic way. Being bi, that means he is attracted to women AND men. He might be attracted to them equally, or he might prefer one gender a little more than the other. But YES, you definitely stand a chance of him feeling romantic love and sexual attraction for you. However, if he is truly gay/homosexual, then NO, you do not stand a chance. If he's gay, he only has feelings of romantic love and sexual attraction for men. At least that's how I've always understood it. :)
2016-03-29 00:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it would matter to me if you are bisexual cause i have a couple of bi friends my self and i have also thought about it but i don't know but i that were me it would not change the way i feel about you.
Hope this helps Good Luck!
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2007-01-24 05:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive dated a boy who was bi and he cheated on me with another boy and i was really hurt but i would do it again only if i knew for sure he wouldnt be sleeping around with the same sex. I have a friend who thought he was gay then he thought he was bi now hes thinking about having kids when hes older and hes just confused so its really up to you and who you date.
2007-01-24 05:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go get tested for AIDS.
2007-01-24 05:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋