well i have been dating this very cute virgin, and we have been dating now for about 2 months. we have talked about touching and exploring to say the least, and she knows that i am not trying to sleep with her just to say that i "did a virgin" i really like her, i can also feel that this is getting stronger with each passing week. so we have been romantic, but nothing major...like i have put my hand on the tummy and all over her back, but i am honestly worried about touching her chest b/c she gave me the green light to say the least, but when things start heating up, she backs off a bit, and why this that? not that she stops it, but i just feel her not wanting to go a bit further. i know she is scared, and ive told her that i am not looking just for that. we have been in bed watching tv, holding, cuddling, etc. so i am confused, should i keep going step by step, or should i just let her make the moves? i know she hasnt done this b4 & i just want to respect her.
2007-01-24 05:12:45 · 14 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you've only been dating for two months... to a virgin, that's not long enough for her to trust you with her V. definitely let her "drive," so to speak. and really, give it, like, a year. if things go badly, heaven forbid, you won't want to be the guy that "took" her V after only a few months, you want to be the guy that had a fulfilling, nice relationship with her, and if that involved sex, then so be it.
think about the relationship first and sex later. i wish that's what i had done when i was younger!
2007-01-24 05:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Word of caution: since you have been together for a while and haven't gone all the way yet, since your girl is a virgin; if and when you do actually have sex, she's going to be extremely emotionally attached to you. If you don't plan on taking your relationship to the next level, I wouldn't do anything more than what you're already doing. I stayed with the guy I lost my virginity to for 2 years and we ended up getting engaged (though never married) a month later. Also, my husband was a virgin when I met him; we got married about 9 months after our first time together. Not trying to scare you, just letting you know what you're in for. By the way, you sound like a really nice guy to be so respectful of your girl; she'll let know when she's ready.
2007-01-24 05:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean step by step always works but if she seems to be pushing u away she just nervous but just let her know u dont want to pressure her into doing anything shes not ready for she'll appreciate that and prbly feel a lot more comfortable around u and she'll take the next step but is still really early in ur relationship give it time.
Good Luck i hope things work out for u 2.
2007-01-24 05:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Steeler Chick♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she is a virgin,she probably doesn't know whats rite or wrong.Just ask her rite in the face if she is sure she wants to keep moving,or take some time before moving on.And then when she has made up her final decision,move on.And ask her about it occasionally.Like when your on a date,not like "Do you want to have sex?"Just say 'do you want to keep going?"
2007-01-24 05:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by tikitikithunder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That very considerate of you if she a bit hesitant on some touching just stop ask if that wasn't all right with her. Ask her what are her standards and be a bit more understanding. But don't tell her "if you really love me ...." line cuz if you loved her you can wait! so don't pressure her
2007-01-24 05:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by Plumerias are from Hawaii! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 mths. is way too little time for your gf to trust u enough or to even think about having sex with u...wait a while and enojy the moments that u guys have but don't pressure her to do anything!!!!!..wait for her to tell u that she's ready maybe after a while u both can start talking about sex so she can get more comfortable with u
2007-01-24 11:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny0305 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her make the Moves, and You keep the Respect
2007-01-24 05:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by uksawatdii 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not ready. It is not "respect" to try to talk her into it, gently push her, threaten to leave her, use the "if you really loved me..." pressure, or any of the other tricks you may have up your sleeve (or in your zipper.) If and when she wants to have sex with you she'll let you know.
2007-01-24 05:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by SA Writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you talked about it, and your gf clearly shows she enjoys being physical with you. But, there is this problem like when me and my bf started making out, it did feel great when we were at it, I couldn't resist him, but it somehow made me feel like a h.o when it was over, don't know why. So talk, cuddle a lot, kiss and reassure her you adore her and don't think she's nasty at all.
2007-01-24 05:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her do the move so she doesn't feel pressure, also stop asking that only pressures her more. Also if u really like her marry her then sleep with her.
2007-01-24 05:17:57 · answer #10 · answered by enano 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋