A friend of mine went out for a night on the town and her ATM card was on hold, so she needed to borrow money. We also stayed in a hotel, which we were sharing the cost of. I have not received anything so far and it's going on 3 weeks. How long should I wait, or how do I bring it up?
2007-01-24 05:11:40 · 13 answers · asked by christinemb 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would say something like "I know you were having problems with your ATM card, and I hope that's settled. Would your next paycheck be a good time for you to pay me back the money I loaned you or at least make a payment towards the balance?"
If she's any kind of friend at all, she'll take the hint and pay you off.
2007-01-24 05:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't ask for it at all. A good principal to apply to lending money is: Don't lend money. If you can't afford to give it away, then just say no. If someone asks to borrow money, decide if you can live without the amount. If you can, just give it to them, without the expectation of repayment. If they repay it, then it's a credit to them. If they don't repay it, it's a credit to you for being generous and kind. You've been dealing with this for 3 weeks already, and there is no gaurantee that the outcome will be favorable, no matter how you ask for it. It could even put a strain on the friendship. Which do you value more? If you had just given the money without expectation of repayment, this would not be an issue for you, or your friend.
2007-01-24 05:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a close friend I think I would bring it up. You could always say "remember when we went out the other night and your ATM card wouldn't work?" I am running low on cash right now and I was wondering if you could pay me back now or do you need a little more time?" If she says she needs more time then try and get a specific date.
2007-01-24 05:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honorable people pay their debts without being asked, and these people are only going to pull the same stunt again.You can test this with a polite way of asking for what is due. Go to dinner and then suggested, say, "Sue, I'm a little short, but you can cover my part of the bill from what you owe me
2007-01-25 00:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask them if they have it, keeping in mind that if paying back borrowed money is a big deal with them, then maybe they're not much of a friend
2007-01-24 06:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her-if that does not work; then sue her as s..file a small court claim...and if that doesn't work, forgive her-but never ever give her money again-I know, this just happened to me, and though I still haven't been too nice to her-I forgave her, but it'll be awhile before we "hang" out! A lesson learned the hard way!
2007-01-24 06:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are a good friend, bring it right up to or do like I do and just borrow it back when I know they have money.....I say, "hey, can I borrow back that money i borrowed to you" My friend and I always have $2 floating between us that we borrow and borrow back.
2007-01-24 05:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait, just ask her for the money she owes you.. Hopefully she doesn't think it was a gift.. you'd be amazed at many times that happens, you think you "loaned" someone money only to find out they thought it was a "gift".. weird huh?
If she doesn't pay you, then you'll have to swallow your loss, and just know not to bale her out again..
Friends and Family two types of people we never loan money to.
2007-01-24 06:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner the better. But let them off the hook in terms of blame, too.
You can say, "I'm not sure if you remember, but I loaned you $ ____ and I needed to be reimbursed for the room as well. When can I expect that?"
2007-01-24 05:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this friend that you are "short on cash" this week, and need the money you loaned her three weeks ago to get you by.
2007-01-28 04:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋