just boring me and not satisfying me in bed. He is a good worker and I know that when we get a divorce he will pay his child support on time because he loves his 3 year old daughter. I want to enjoy life with my high paying job and I want to date cute guys that are exciting and take me out places. So how do I tell my husband in a nice way that I want a divorce because he is boring me and not great in bed.
2007-01-24 05:05:13 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Based on what you described, you should just admit to him that you are a self-absorbed axxhole and that you want to play with hot hunkie well endowed guys with cool cars and 6 pak abs.. Tell him that your marriage vows were "just words" and to actually follow on your promise to love honor and cherish him didn't matter. And be sure to admit that you are willing to risk the well being of your daughter, knowing statistically that children of divorce tend to have less education, higher incidents of substance abuse, more likely to have an arrest record, more likely to marry too early and have children too young.
Yes. Just admit to him that you are axxhole... although I'm sure he already realizes that anyway.
2007-01-24 05:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a big thing, and even though your daughter is young, this decision will impact her for the rest of her life. Not satisfying you in bed is not a good reason at all to have a divorce. I am separated and will be divorcing soon and it is basically for the same reasons that you had. Now I know that these reasons were stupid and am regretful of the hurt I caused my spouse and of the mess I have made of my life.
Work things out, make life exciting. Go places. Remember what made you fall in love with your husband at the beginning because once he is gone, it will all come flooding back and you'll wonder what happened. Don't do something you may regret. The problem here needs both you and your husband to sort it out. Work together and make your marriage last.
2007-01-24 05:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jensies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no nice way to to tell him this, how would you feel if he did this to you? Did you go to bed with him BEFORE you married him and how long did you date him ? Looks to me you could have save yourself a lot of grief by doing it before and knowing he was not great in bed and boring.. Have you tried to talk about sex?, it's amazing to me how many people do not talk to their partner to make their experience better.Lets not forget some of the other important issues in a marriage-He is a good worker and I know that when we get a divorce he will pay his child support on time because he loves his 3 year old daughter, is that all you can say about this man, WHY DID YOU MARRY HIM?
2007-01-24 05:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely your choice to want a divorce. But why not tell him the things that bother you, and give him a chance to make things better? I mean even the worse sex can be the best sex if you give him a chance to spice it up a little. If you guys have a daughter together then why not try to make your marriage work. I mean sounds to me you feel like your missing out on something being married, talking about wanting to go out with cute guys and stuff like that. I think it's a selfish way to think, perhaps your husband isn't boring or bad in bed, perhaps it's just the way you want to see him so you have an excuse to get out of this marriage.
2007-01-24 05:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy oh boy Megan I can see why you'd want to leave this guy. He's a hard worker, responsible and would pay up his child support without any hassles. And having been with him for 3 years and sharing a family situation with a young daughter how could anyone want to live or be expected to live in a situation like this. Too bad you are not open to seeking out some type of help like marriage and/or sex therapy in order to try and salvage this relationship. So I guess the only thing left if for you to be as honest as you can with this fella and tell him straight up that you are not satisfying me and as such the marriage is over. Oh yeah, at the same time you mentioned that you'd like to tell him that you want to remain friends and break his heart, I'm sure he'll be open to all your suggestions.
2007-01-24 05:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at her other questions. What a cheating whore. The best thing you can do for your husband is leave him. Your daughter would be better off with him then seeing you bring your cute guys into the house and you should be paying him child support and alimony.
If you have a high paying job why are you asking about begging on your hands and knees to get your job back?
Your husband and daughter are better off without you.
2007-01-24 05:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sammy12oz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's satisfaction in bed you want, then perhaps you and your husband should join a swingers-club. Here is a list of such clubs:
http://www.swingersclublist.com
Or if you just want to date on your own, then you can agree with your husband to have an open marriage where both you and he will be free to sleep with other people.
You won't be young and attractive all your life. And men won't be running after you forever. Some day your husband will be the only man who cares about you. And then having boring sex with him will be better than having no sex at all.
2007-01-24 05:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you run into a guy that says you are boring.
Did you ever think maybe it's you that is bad in bed..of course you didn't because you are so full of yourself that it never entered your mind. Maybe you are the problem??
Divorce the poor sap because you are no good for him but don't try to use your daughter to control him..she will grow up hating you if you make him leave her.
2007-01-24 05:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he can have sole custody. It sounds like he'd be a better parent anyway. ...Seriously, look to counseling before making the "grass is greener" mistake. Guys are different. Talk to him, yes, you'll have to make the effort because he probably doesn't know how (not being rude, just honest) . If you can't work it out, telling him you can be friends is adding an insult to injury. Don't blind side him, start leading up to this for a couple of weeks.
ps Grass is not always greener on the other side.
2007-01-24 05:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by vkkesu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a high paying job and just want to "go play and enjoy life with good sex partners," he should get the child (so she doesn't turn out like you) and you should pay him support. Since you totally used him the whole time!!!!!
2007-01-24 05:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋