i'm 16 and my bf is 17.
my mom knows and i'm fine with that, she just sort of guessed by the way i was acting and stuff but my dad doesn't know and my mom is making me tell him! how unfair!? she says i have to tell him and if i don't, she will....he'll gorund me or something, my dad is so strict. i'm also a little embarrassed cause like.....he's my dad. though this guy is really amazing, if he gave him a chance, he'd like him.....
2007-01-24 05:03:59 · 12 answers · asked by Grace 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Grace try communicating with your dad in a mature and open manner. Sit him down and tell him that you are now 16 years old and that you are interested in a boy aged 17 and that he is also interested in you. Inform your dad that you'd love to have them meet one and other and that your dad is still the number one man in your life (might lighten things up a bit for you.) Your father wants only good things for you, regardless of how strict he is, and the sad fact is that no man is going to be good enough for his baby girl until he gains your father's respect and trust. Be grateful (although I realize it is difficult at times) that your dad is looking out for you. Perhaps a family meeting should be held at which time you can inform him and if mom already knows she may even be able to help you out a bit. Best of luck with this and I wish that I could be more helpful but I raised three boys so never had this to worry about with a daughter.
2007-01-24 05:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I had the same exact problem
I told my mother that I had a bf and not my father...I ended up telling my dad after about a week of dating my bf cause my father is so strict and is always like "Well, I feel you aren't ready for a relationship." or something like "Don't go too far, go slow." My mom said I HAD to tell my father, so I told him and he was actually really happy for me
Hope this helped!
2007-01-24 05:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Caitie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not quite sure what the big deal is...are you not allowed to date? Tell him now before you get busted sneaking around trying to see this guy without your dad's knowledge. You better get used to this if you plan to have any sort of dating life or do you even as an adult plan to hide your boyfriends from your parents?
2007-01-24 05:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should invite you bf over for dinner or to hang out and when he comes over to the house just introduce him as your boyfriend. Your dad can't get mad at you in front of him and he will also be able to meet him and see how he treats you and acts towards you. That's what I did with my dad. It worked just fine and my family loves my boyfriend to this day.
2007-01-24 05:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by katiej47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally speaking, you should think about how "presentable" your boy friend is. What in, your father might dislike and what in him might impress your father. So help your boy friend develop the impressive qualities and let the lesser aspects fade away, just like the dark spots in the moon is out shined by the brightness.Plus, you have your mother by your side (it seems) so go ahead! And good luck
2007-01-24 05:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by anecentric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i recently went through the same thing! i was terrified that my dad was going to yell at me and hate him -- BUT! my boyfriend actually came over to my house and sat down and talked to my dad... my dad really respected that and everything is perfect now.
although, what i had was sort of a secret romance.. and my dad knew my boyfriend, just didn't know we were dating..
it's a little different, but most parents really like it when the man comes over and asks permission to date their daughter.. it looks REALLY good to them
2007-01-24 05:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by ashwee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k what my sister did, was she brought him to my house and told my dad that he was only a friend and then my sister start incating him so he could get alone with my dad, and after a while my sister told my dad that they were bf and gf. do that and good luck
2007-01-24 05:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Da 1 N only 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dad I want you to meet my boyfriend. Your 16 just be upfront with him.
2007-01-24 05:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't mention your age, and that could have alot to do with why you are afraid of being grounded. if its worth the risk just tell him and get it over with. alot of kids these days under estimate there parents
2007-01-24 05:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain what you saying now to your dad, and if he doesn't listen .do you anyway,because at least you can say you tried to tell him and the boy is respectful to you , so keep him
2007-01-24 05:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by twiggy_vienna_love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋