my bf smoked pot as long as I have known him and been with him (about 3 years). He stopped to go into fire academy but had to leave because we might think he has heart problems. He told me he wasnt going to smoke as much but now he his and it really upsets me. He only mocks me because he said i have been with him this long while he did that i shouldnt care. Because of this he is not really speaking to me which really upsets me, should I let it go and not care?
2007-01-24 05:03:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if he smoked pot when you met him, and your relationship lasted as long as it has, he has learned that you will be with him regardless.
However, people change their behaviors for a reason. If he only stopped smoking for the fire academy, then it is no surprise that his old habit resumed after he was released for health problems.
But, if it bothers you that much, then you should ask him to stop for you. If he sees something like a job/career to be more influential in his decisions, then your relationship may not be as important to him as it is to you.
Bottom line: It's a tough one since you have been together for so long without it being an issue. Your may want to tell him that you saw him differently and appreciated him more when he wasn't smoking, and didn't realize before how much of a difference it would make to you.
2007-01-24 05:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by adian919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not stop speaking to you just because you are concerned. That is the wrong way to deal with conflicts. It is totally immature. He told you that he was going to cut down on the smoking and he went back on his word. That is reason enough to be upset so tell him that. He shouldn't mock you, he should care about how you feel. You care about HIM in that you don't want him smoking when he's already got heart problems.
You are just being the concerned partner. That is what they are there for. Force him to talk about this. Do not allow him, or yourself, to forget about this.
2007-01-24 13:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jensies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been with him a long time. Pot is a bad habit no ifs and or buts about it..... you should care about what he's doing to himself, pot eventually causes sexual side effects and can be fatal....
Do you really need/love him so much that you are willing to take a back seat to his pot addiction?
Because that is what it will come to.... you are asking him to choose between his pot and you.... and it would appear you are on the losing end of the deal....
Letting go doesn't necessarily have to mean you don't care.... you can be there for him while not being his girl friend.
2007-01-24 13:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by eyeneva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is difficult for an addict to stop smoking, love him with the smoke or leave him
2007-01-24 13:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by mamakumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋