i found a text on my bf phone from a gal saying "y r u ignorin me after wot u said on fri nite, i comfronted him and he said she said that coz i havent replyied due to no credit and he and her say there jus mates, she also said if u dont trust him thats ur problem he hasnt know her for long 4 months he say he works with her sis and this she has a bf.he has mentioned that she makes him feel good about himself and she is funy , i hjasve been with him for a 1.5 year and live with him
2007-01-24 04:52:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank you so much for telling these fools to stop takin the piss out of my spelling i kan spell i jus chose to right in slang u no text style
2007-01-24 05:26:15 · update #1
Sounds a little fishy, but do you have reason not to trust him?
2007-01-24 04:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be mis-reading the situation, or not. You might want to take a step back and analyze your relationship, take this as an accidental wake up call. Do you make him feel good about himself? Does he make you feel good?
Communication in a relationship is fundamental and its free. No credit required. Just openness and friendship. No secrets (except regarding presents) but also no prying into the past.
There's a word that usually gets mentioned in these cases and I can't remember it right now. It runs along the lines of allowing a relationship become stale, or not.
A relationship has to be tended like a garden or it eventually the weeds take over and it gets grown over. Keep things fresh and nobody gets tempted to look elsewhere. I was too trusting and I was accused of not being jealous enough. I should have been because it was misread as lost interest. Lack of communication as to needs not met...
As to the message, you might be reading it correctly, or you could have stumbled on something else. As they are friends, she may have asked him for advice about her own relationship, something at work or a thousand other things.
2007-01-24 05:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by NotsoaNonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is calm down, don't panic but be vigilant as this maybe a work colleague with an ulterior motive. Remember you are the girlfriend, but try not to be the paranoid, whining girlfriend so that she becomes the relaxed and understanding work colleague.
Be careful because some guys get off on watching women freak out over them. What you should do is watch your boyfriends actions because he is supposed to put you at ease not set you on edge.
2007-01-24 06:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by smiler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt, sorry it sounds genuine to me.
She might be flirting a bit more than she should but that's probably bcos she feels safe that nothing will happen as he's in a relationship with you. Personally I think he's innocent.
Wouldn't worry bout it . . . . . of course going thro his phone looking for txts means u don't trust him. Behaviour like this is only likely to drive the 2 of them together.
2007-01-24 05:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by Genetically Modified 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could just be friends, or it could be something more. Its hard to say whether hes cheating or not. It could be just the start with him, or nothing at all but a friendship. Just keep an eye on him. If it continues, then you need to confront him on it and find out what his feelings are for this girl and why she makes him feel good about himself and that if you make him feel the same way.
2007-01-24 04:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says nothing is wrong and he hasnt done anything then its up to you to beleive him, i think personally he wudnt have those messages on his phone if he was cheatin cause he would delete them. If you have never had any reasons to suspect him then it might be a misunderstanding, but ask him not to be so friendly with her if its bothering you and breaking the relationship. If he loves you then he will respect your wishes. Hope it all works out xx
2007-01-24 05:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should you worry? I would say YES. It's obvious he told this girl something important enough to have her question why he said it. And if you can't trust him then there is no use being in a relationship with someone you can't trust. You are always going to be wondering whats going on. You deserve better. Good Luck
2007-01-24 04:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by Lace 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This does beg the question why you were going through his phone in the first place - there's obviously a trust issue here to begin with. That said ... yes, you should definitely worry - it sounds extremely dodgy to me.
2007-01-24 05:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the chuff is everyone slating her on her writing skills???? Thats just damn right rude & nasty!!!!!
I would see how things go sweety, at least he has been open & honest with u (we think). I would be very wary though & if u dont trust somebody, the relationship will be doomed.
Good Luck!! x
2007-01-24 05:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what you get for living with a guy without a commitment. Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free? Move out today and start respecting yourself yesterday.
2007-01-24 04:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what was said? Possibly a conversation that needs a answer...But not about a relationship? Another thing, why did you snoop into his phone, has he given you a reason to be suspicious? How would you like it if he was nosing through your phone questioning you about your friends? FUNNY, HAVE REPLIED, JUST, KNOWN, CONFRONTED.....Just in case you want to write them down for future observation.
2007-01-24 05:06:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋