My sister is having problems with life in general right now. She hates school, gets REALLY bad grades, gets into fights with my mom constantly over the smallest and biggest things, shes hanging out with a really bad crowd, and acts as if she hates the world. She seems to think because I act as if I care, I'm being 'such a parent'. She acts as if the entire world is out to get her, and gets an incredibly snotty attitude with me on a daily basis (we share a room, so its unavoidable). She is 14 years old, and I'm really getting worried about what she's going to be like in a few years. It's like she hates me because I act more responsible than her or my brother (i have an older brother, younger sister). I don't know what to say to her anymore. She acts buddy-buddy with me when she needs to vent, but calls me a goody-goody and a bookworm and a stuck up parent, when I don't even do anything!! I'll be sitting here talking to her, and she'll call me all those name when we disagree. help?
2007-01-24 04:48:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She needs to trust you,first. and i think that she is in the adult age. so all her behaviour is expected to be the way it s. try to find one close friend of her or someone she trusts, and let her speak to ur sister. and covince her to change her attitudes, or talk to her , say to her that its wrong way. and leave her doing wat she wants but observe her and ask about her all the time, when u notice that something dangerous will happen to her, interfere using gud ways. coz the adults, sometimes, need to cross this way to learn.
from such experiences , people learn, of course, she ll loose things but acquire others. let her live but observe. gud luck and take care.
2007-01-24 05:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by gentle whisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i shared a room with my sis till i was 19 and when she was 14 and i was 16....WE Hated each other. now im 23 and shes 21 and were like best friends give it time. when ur sis matures she'll realise how much she loves and needs u but when ur a 14 yr old girl all she wants is to play up. only advice i can give apart from waiting is try talking to her on her level and she what shes going through without shouting at her or making her feel like shes done bad then she may talk to u about the root of her problems.
2007-01-24 12:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by mongoose29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is a teenager with a lot problems. She is quite jealous of you, she can't stand all the pressure and effort to reach you so she went the other way she acts as if she hates you and not approve you. However i am sure she really loves you, she just don't know how to prove her value. She will definitely get over it! You should try to boost her self-esteem, ask her opinion on an issue or her help. I'm sure she will appreciate it. Good luck!!
2007-01-24 12:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by ....................... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is going through an identity crisis along with depression. She's 14 but trying to be older than she is so doing "wrong" things with her "so called friends that arent worth hanging around with"......The only thing I can suggest other than try to talk her into going to counselling to talk to someone before she starts "cutting, doing major drugs/alcohol" unless she's already experimented with that...it will just get worse. She's crying out for help without coming out and asking for it. She may call you every name in the book because you are in a disagreement. She can only see her point of view...at the present time...anything else is overwhelming for her....so when she sees you "being goody goody in school with great marks/ you probably study, and get along with your parent(s) deep down she wants all that as well but in Her World....she doesn't get along with your parent(s), she isn't doing good in school, she's choosing wrong crowd of ppl to hang out with as she is looking for attention/and help at the same time. She is a lost 14yr old, trying to be 19 and not seeming to fit in anywhere (in her world). Seek counselling either at school or through your doctors office. She doesn't Have to go on medication for depression, but talk what other options there are to help her through this tough time in her life* Unfortunately she may not speak to you, get super mad with you....but in the long run...she will Thankyou for all your support/help and standing by her. Sticks and stones will break your bones but names can never hurt you* ..Well Ya the names do hurt you.....but you need to be the Strong one and Support Your Sister and just let the name calling be just that...angry words from a confused / lost child*~
GOODLUCK*~
And I commend you for sticking by your sister and trying to help her. Keep on SMlin*
2007-01-24 13:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will change in time. At 14 everyone girl thinks the worlds out to get her. Just let her do her thing and let nothing, even the snuddy remarks come in between you. After all she is your sister. For life
2007-01-24 12:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her this, You are my sister no matter what happen between us... You can hate me love me, care about me, don't care about me. But you are my family, I will always be there for you and even if you don't like it or do like it.
If you need me I am here, I respect you for who you are. I will never change you to be like me or anyone else, I love you very much sister. I want to be able to know you will be there for me same with me being there for you when you need me.
You can call me all the names you want that who you are. Sister you are I have and Brother I have. You gonna to see me another what 70 more years. It will never stop me love you sister.
I think she will be shocked the hell out of her. But you know what ever you do I respect that. You still my sister in my blood. no one will ever tells me to leave my own blood sister. and I will be there to proect you sometimes I can't, it depends on what plm you have.
I told my sister and she choose to believe mother over me. That is fine, she not gonna be my sister she my 1/2 sister not full sister... but care about her kids. smiling.
2007-01-24 13:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope it is a phase and she will outgrow it It's sounds really typical . You are the middle child and it sounds like you and your sibling are right on track with the roles you play in your family. Copy and paste the web address below I think you will find it very interesting
2007-01-24 12:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to see a doctor for depression even though shes your sister leave her be if she cant respect you if she turns you away then act like she does everthings against her so turn you back and tell her if she cant respect you and be a friend to you then you dont want nothing to do with her. she definatly needs counceling
2007-01-24 12:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyessly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds really emo.......she needs help before she trys to commit sucide. luck.
2007-01-24 12:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋