I dont know why but it is really depressing me that Ill be 30 soon, and no boyfriend or career that I love.I was engaged to my highschool boyfriend of 10 years and we were actually supposed to be getting married next weekend, we had the hall booked and everything.I broke up with him last March & it was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but when i was really honest with myself i realized we had grown appart (i had grown up and he had not) and we just didnt want the same things out of life.I have dated 4-5 guys since then and they all seemed to start out great but turn into jerks who were just after sex, and once they got it or didnt after a while they dissapeared.Im so frustrated by this.I try to do things with friends but most are settled & everyone keeps trying to set me up.Any advice?
2007-01-24 04:39:34 · 12 answers · asked by nyc88m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl don't worry! Everybody feels that way at one time or another whether they are turning 25, 30, 45 or 100!
I was divorced at 29, started dating like crazy and just got exhausted from it. Once I STOPPED looking for someone to settle down with is when I found someone.
Now I live in Europe, have a great house, partner and a one-year-old son. I am only 32! A LOT happened in those three years.
Focus on yourself. Take a class, travel, learn to play a musical instrument, study French, volunteer with the needy....etc... Find your happiness elsewhere (and get a great vibrator...)
You'll be so busy that men will be the last thing on your mind, which is when you'll meet one who will be in awe of what a well-rounded person you are. Hang in there, and whatever you do, DON'T SETTLE!!
xo
2007-01-24 04:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Chickgeek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-27 22:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by riopel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee you sound like the life of the party??? Hate to be around you when you turn 40!!!!
Why is 30 such a milestone unless you had all these plans or milestone you were hoping to reach by that age?
Get over it move on since things could be worse....say you're turning 65 and have never been kissed let alone shagged!!!! That and you don't know where your belly begins and your t!ts end???
2007-01-24 04:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Paul M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well not 30 yet but don't be down. Find some activties you like. As for men you will find one, my mom got remarried to a 28 year odl in her 40's. Though I gotta admit not looking forward to the 30, 3 years to go.
2007-01-24 04:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First thing's first. 30 is the new 25. It's really not that big of a deal in this day and age. It doesn't mean that you can't meet the man of your dreams and live happily ever after.
And it also doesn't mean that you'll never have a career that you love.
To quote Penelope Cruz from Vanilla Sky... Every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around.
Or to quote someone very special to me, don't talk about it... BE about it.
2007-01-24 05:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ride it out hon. You'll look back and feel stupid that you didn't enjoy such a great milestone birthday! You'll also laugh at yourself that you let idiot guys like that ruin it for you. Believe me, life is so not worth getting all worked up over the little things. Focus on what is great with your life and get on with it.
2007-01-24 04:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it, you're just in a lull. There are guys out there and at least one of them has your name tattooed on his heart it's all just a matter of finding him. I kind of wish I were close to where you are. I too have been looking for that right someone for several years now.
They're out there and when you least expect it, he's going to pop up right in front of you and that will be all she wrote. You'll know it in a heart beat. Don't be depressed, I've seen it too many times in women. They get too depressed over nothing.
2007-01-24 05:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 is no big deal, your just getting started and thank goodness you didn't marry that HS BF, sounds like it would have been short lived, sounds like you are starting to know what you want.
30 is just the beginning and the men(boys) are just starting to grow up, just do the things you enjoy and you will start to meet people that are like you!! Enjoy and celebrate your birthday!!
2007-01-24 05:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by sharing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the cliche "age is just a number?" Well, it is. So if you want a pity party, give yourself one. Just wait for 40!! Seriously, quit your bitchin and get the life you claim you don't have.
2007-01-24 04:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 32-have few single/divorced friends, as for great answer-sorry i don't-just have FUN/LAUGH, date few hotties(even though most just want it-so?) and don't give up-too easy to be depressed i know.
good luck
2007-01-24 04:44:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋