How long would it take to find out if it's just a phase or just infatuation or if you just love him as a friend that you can't be without for the rest of your life? How long does it take to know if he's the one and is there usually a scared feeling at the prospect of sharing your life with someone? I've only been seeing him a month or so. I worked with him for over a year 10 years ago...but I feel like he's always been in my life now and it's a good thing. I'm scared...
2007-01-24 04:37:11 · 16 answers · asked by tunafish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, he feels the same way..
2007-01-24 04:53:49 · update #1
i met a guy, dated him 5 months later, and after the first 2 dates i knew it was true love. luckily the feeling is renewed by the way we treat each other every day. it's not like "Ok, we're in love, we did it." it's more like a feeling that needs to be nourished and fed so it grows and gets even better with time.
2007-01-24 04:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is time is a relative trem... 2 days may be short for me while it may be a lifetime for someone else. In the matters of the heart, no one can place stringent time constraints. Some ppl 'fall in love at first sight' , I need to know someone before I can truely 'love' them...
You need to look at the situation for afar and see if this is the right thing to do... Love does not come with guarantees... you may love someone unconditionally now and tonight he may do something so horrible that you will hate him just as much.
I guess what I am trying to say is just count the pros against the cons (all relationships have both) and then you will know if it's worth trying for.
God's guidance be with you.
2007-01-24 12:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush anything, just take it slow and let things move at a steady pace. Don't over think it just let your heart feel what it wants to feel. I can tell you that you can't make your heart love somebody. So if you are falling for him let it happen as long as you can.
Just can't help but wonder if he feels the same way?
2007-01-24 12:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your heart it is the only one that can give you an accurate answer. However you can't put time limitations to love. If you miss him a lot, trust him, have fun and feel comfortable with him, if you feel complete only when he is beside you then YES you really love him! Good luck!
2007-01-24 12:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by ....................... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always a scary feeling at the prospect of commitment but it's just normal.first of all if u love him any little mistake he makes hurts you so very much even to the slightest,you always want to see him and you always want to find excuses for his shortcomings in prescence of friends and family.
2007-01-24 12:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by don_dada 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. If you love him you'll know it. Love is something you feel and know when it happens. I knew I loved my husband the first day we met in person and I've been in love with him sense. Don't be scared about it because love is a wonderful thing. If you can't stop thinking about him and your heart races everytime you see him then you know your in love with him. Don't sweat it when it happens trust me you'll know.
2007-01-24 12:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok there is not a specific timeline to find out how you really feel about someone. but you will know how you see some1. just enjoy what your feeling right now and dont worry too much about the future.
2007-01-24 12:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be no rush to make that decision. Take your time and enjoy dating and getting to know him. Only time will tell and you will know it when you love him. You need to allow him time to know you and come to his decisions too. It can't be a one-way street. Good luck.
2007-01-24 12:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask him how it feels and try it if it doesnt work then it doesnt there is no way your going to find out what would have happened if you dont do it, if it doesnt work i'm sorry there is no remedy for pain it is the way of life you have to go through many to find the right one
2007-01-24 12:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by tiny g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A month is too short a time to make such an important decision. Take your time, get to know him more.
2007-01-24 12:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋