We are a blended family and I am in need of support. My husband and I have had custody of 4 of our children from his previous marriage for going on 4 years now. Mom is not really around. I am supportive of my children and their relationship with her when she does call or is around. I never disrespect her. Just recently I found out that Mom and her husband are trying to have a baby. I am in a state of shock. She doesn't take responsibilty for the children she does have emotionally, financially and she thinks its responisble to have another child. I find myslef increasing inpatient with her and becoming shorter with my kids. I love them so much and would never do anything to harm their relationship but COME ON. I struggle so much with balance. I feel like I am fighting a no win battle. I feel like its a contest I can never win. I know its not a contest but it sucks sometimes. Any words of widsom would be appreciated.
2007-01-24 04:34:58 · 3 answers · asked by Euphoria 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to be strong and continue being there for the children. It's sad that their mother will lose out in being around for the most precious years of their lives, but when the children are all grown up they will love and respect YOU so much more for the continued support, the unconditional love that you gave them and because of YOU they will better people. The kids will eventually grow up and see the lack of parenting (with their biological mom). Let her go and concentrate on your strength and courage...it's way too stressful worrying about her pathetic way of thinking. Hang in there GIRL!!!
2007-01-24 06:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in the end you have your children to finish raising. You are the childrens real mom now. So the bio mom is getting a new family so she will spend less time with your children. You let her do what she must do and you do what is right for you and your children. There is no contest cuz your the mom...I think you maybe feeling bad for your children but it sounds like you will overcome this feeling that she is negecting your children, because you are their mom and you take care of your own.
2007-01-28 04:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by lippi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is very irresponsible but u really cant do anything about it.
2007-01-24 10:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋