what should i do im 15 and my mom and dad diead in a car aciddent and i only have three big brother and none of them like talking to me because when they do they start crying because they say that i remind them of my mother well i live with my grandmother and she is always crying and she dosnt really talk to me either because she say the same thing. the question is should i go and live with a froster home because they not really takeing care of me and i now my mom would be mad if she see what they are doing to me what should i do i need help and advice.
2007-01-24 04:32:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you need to let your family know how you feeling, family counseling is good try and see if you can all go****
2007-01-24 04:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your family is still grieving and they don't realize what it is doing to you. Tell them how you are feeling. suggest a grief specialist to help them (and you) through the loss of your parents. You need to all stick together. You are a family and need the support of each other now more than ever. Going to a foster family will only put more of a break in your already suffering family. People take different amounts of time to grieve and have different methods of grieving. Speak up and tell them that you are hurting too and they are putting pressure on you that hyou cannot handle. With each other's support and open communication (and therapy if needed) you can all pull together and get through it together. I am so sorry for you loss. Good luck to you and your family.
2007-01-24 04:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go and live with a foster family. You have a family that loves you very much. They are just still very upset over what has happened. They may not want to talk to you, because it brings up old memories that hurt. But you need to talk to them. If you feel like you can't talk to them then write them each a personal letter. Tell them how you feel about what has happened and tell them how bad it makes you feel when they refuse to talk to you. Remind them that you are here alive and healthy, even though your parents passed away you are still a major priority for them. They need to realize that not talking to you is hurting you and making you want to leave. Sometimes when a loved one passes away people dwell on their grief and forget to see what wonderful things they have in their life. Like family and friends. You can all help each other with these hard times so it is important that you stick together. If they knew you felt so left out and unwelcome they would do something. They really do care, they are just sad over what has happened. So remind them that it is OK to be sad, but also OK to celebrate life that you are all blessed with!
2007-01-24 04:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by sunnychick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is there another family member that you can live with? Or at least talk to that will be able to talk to the brothers & grandma for you? Foster living is not the easy way out - Seek another family member or a school counselor that can speak for you. Don't give up - everyone heals from a loss differntly. Stay strong - I wish there was more I could do for you.
2007-01-24 05:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by megzz79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry your family is going through this tragedy.First of all, you should begin counseling immediately.If you don't know where to start,talk to your school counselor.Secondly,your enire family is grieving and they obviously don't know how to deal with it.They need a support group/counseling also.There is no excuse for them to shut you out.It is wrong of them to ignore your needs and you should speak up about it.Like I said,start with your school counselor and tell them everything you said in your question.Hopefully they will help you with this.Feel free to e-mail me if you need someone else to talk to.
2007-01-24 04:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r a living memory of your mother the greiving process takes along time it will get better.
2007-01-24 11:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your school Guidance Counselor and/or your local Child Protective Services. Check the phone book..If you belong to a church the Priest may be able to help..Good luck
2007-01-24 04:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by buzzwaltz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should try to suppport your family in this difficult moments because as i see it you are the "tough guy" of the family. You should explain to them that the past can't changed and you should all try to continue. I think that this is what your mother would want. Don't relinquish your family just try to find compassion in friends. Good luck!!!!!!
2007-01-24 04:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by ....................... 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋