I been with my boyfreind for 6 years now and he still cant find a good job.I love him alot but not in love.He respects me and has always been an good man.But now I am getting older and I need more from him.I just recently met another guy that I am atracted to because he has good credit, nice and about somthing more.I'm 24 ready to start my family.My family loves my boyfreind and I love his.What to do?
2007-01-24 04:32:15 · 12 answers · asked by Q-Tee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't know what real love is, obviously.
You're a gold-digger and that makes me sick.
If you really loved your bf, you'd be supportive, encouraging, and not looking for the next big trade-up. You'd help him find whatever it is you think you're going to need for your future. If you're with someone just because of their credit score, you really don't know what love is and definately won't be loved in return. I hope you find a guy with a credit score of 1000, and when he leaves you 8 years later for a younger, more attractive woman, remember how you traded up for him, and how that's exactly what he'll be doing to you and that you deserve it.
2007-01-24 04:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by jirstan2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think you should just ditch the man you have been with for 6 years for another man just because he has good credit. your boyfriend could might just need some guidence and you never know what will happen with the new guys credit later. Also, the grass is not always greener on the other side....actuall almost never and there are always different flaws in the next person. The problem now is money but come 6 years later when your with the new guy and he is cheating or something of that sort. you never really know what could happen but if you are not in love maybe use should take a break and date other people for a while just dont take it for granit, you might realize down the line that you actually love your boyfriend and he could lose feelings before your eyes
2007-01-24 04:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Motivation.Inspiration 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with a guy just because he has good credit? Credit = Debt
You should be looking for a guy who is going to be a great husband and father with a bright future.
It sounds like you are 24 but may have some growing up to do, what do you bring to the table beyond a female body?
2007-01-24 04:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you love him a lot but "not in love"? Then why would you even consider a future with him. A good man is the type of man when considering a family man or marriage. Employment is a must for survival and good credit is a plus. But you cannot measure the sincerity of a man based on his credit report.
2007-01-24 04:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Dariana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for the good credit. It'll hurt now, but you'll be happier later. Don't end up living a life that you don't like because of someone else's lack of ambition.
I don't mean to sound heartless, but you've got to think about your future children. Nice guys are OK. But nice, responsible fathers who put their children through college and maybe take their wives on the occasional vacation are what really count.
2007-01-24 04:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by Bam Bam M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the boyfriend that treats you with love & respect should be the man yu should think about having a family with. the man that wants to havea family & that you know. Credit can be repaired ove time but getting married & having famil with a man that doesn't later on treat you right is the worse thig in the world.
You should love & be in love with the man that you are going to marry. I hoe that this helps & good luck
2007-01-24 04:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by hkstareyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How close friends are you with this guy? If you can, get him to come over and watch wrestling on TV with you. Have a few beers then start acting goofy and wrestle him, and see what happens. If you guys are meant for each other it will probably get a little steamy right then. It's so cool to find out you really like each other, and I hope the best for you. If you can get him to wrestle you be sure and laugh, make lots of noise and beg him for mercy. My b/f tells me when I do that it makes him way horny!
2007-01-24 04:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't marry for credit. You really should marry for love and if your present boyfriend isn't what you think you need anymore then you should move on. Find someone that fits your heart and has good credit they are out there you know.
2007-01-24 04:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may like his family, but you're not marrying them. As for your B/F, if you are not in love, there is no reason to continue that relationship. As for the new guy, if you like him go out with him, but if you like him just for his "good credit", then it's doomed to fail too
2007-01-24 04:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by John D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems you have taken up with a loser. Move on and find someone who has the qualities you need. As far as the families are concerned, they aren't the ones who make the choices. You are old enough to make your own decisions.
2007-01-24 04:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Jan C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋