Why do we have to wait to have sex until we're married?
Does the Church or Priest determine our Marriage? What determines our Marriage? Wouldn't "God" determine that?
**Why do we need a Church to determine that 2 people will be together forever?**
2007-01-24 04:17:54 · 21 answers · asked by Nicky_Nolstorm 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
With all due respect to everyone who is religious, I respect your beliefs, however my opinion is that religion is a man made farce, started a long time ago to keep society and moral values in check. There is no reason to wait to have sex if you want to.
2007-01-24 04:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by E-Razz 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Lets address these questions individually, shall we?
1. You don't have to wait. Who told you that you do, and why did you believe them?
2. Marriage is two people united in a relationship with the intention of permanence. No outside person can determine whether or not you are married. The state has a legal definition for purposes of taxation, benefits, etc. but other than that, which varies from state ti state and country to country, only you and your significant other are informed sufficiently to decide whether or not you're married.
3. You don't need a church to determine that. Only those who actually believe the church is anything more than a human institution are willing to give over their rights and decisions to it.
2007-01-24 12:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to wait, but if you want God's approval, he says to wait until your married. There is a true bond when your the only one they have been with, makes it even more special. Otherwise, it is cheapened.
Marriage is a legal bond between a male and female. As long as it is legal in the country you live in, it is legal in God's eyes.
More people live together now than get married. There is no commitment. They leave whenever and go on to the next person. People who live together for years, why don't they get married? Do they have a problem with true commandment?
Or a rebellious attitude..."no ones going to tell me what I should do?" Most families are a mess today. Kids from several partners, step families, very few with the "original family" that they started with.
Statistically, everyone that lives together first, before marriage don't last. Everyone I've ever known that lived together first, then got married are now divorced.
2007-01-24 12:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first you need a church which is the legal way to get married and you are married under the eyes of God. second. No one determines your marriage it is your choice in your heart if you feel you are to be together forever and if you love that person. You got sex in the topic well that is another story (laughing).
2007-01-24 12:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by Joann G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A priest does not administer the Sacrament of Matrimony. The bride and groom do; the priest is just the Church's witness.
I think the reason it is thought to be better to wait until marriage until having sex is because of the possibilities of the sexual act. A child needs a loving and stable home environment with two parents. Marriage provides that.
2007-01-24 12:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do what you want to do.
My marriage was determined by Revenue Canada in 1995, by the Quebec Civil Registry in 2001, by my husband and me sometime around 1993, by the church not yet, by God--how should I know?
2007-01-24 12:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Goddess of Grammar 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because God ordained it in Gen. 2:23, The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man." 24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Jesus said in Matthew 19:3 through 6: "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
There is a bond when a man and woman have sex together....It was designed for a husband and a wife to share. If you have sex outside of marriage, you still have that bond and it makes break ups even worse.
And it makes the wedding night so much more special if they know it is just for them (the couple)alone and hasn't been shared with others. (past boyfriend/girlfriends)
God ordained it to be to together until they parted at death. If you really love someone, wouldn't you want to be with them forever?
2007-01-24 12:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jan P 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
We don't. Some people choose to, for reasons the rest of us can't comprehend - just like some people choose not to eat shellfish (that's another kinda of abomination before some gods, but not others).
Not all religions are anti-sex, you know.
2007-01-24 12:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by eldad9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and sex have little to do with each other.
Indiscriminate sex causes problems.
A publicly announced vow of lifetime commitment used to mean more than it does today, even when people fell out of lust with their partners.
If you're not willing to marry there is no love, just lust.
2007-01-24 12:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by angrygramma 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We don't need a church to determine our destiny. Have sex with whatever consenting adult you want. Use a rubber!
Blessed Be.
2007-01-24 12:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Maria Isabel 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋