Do you think romance is dead in the modern world?

Question

How do you feel about this? I have noticed that there are very few romantics left in the world (from a personal perspective).

People do not seem to appraciate romantic gestures these days and hardly do anything romantic for their partners.

I ask this as I have been dumped twice in a year and done very nice things for both women, yet recieved no gesture in return nor much thanks.

I dont expect anything in return from romantic gestures nor want anything in return, yet it seems romance is something to be feared by many people as it shows some kind of weakness I think, which in this hard-nosed world we live in, is shame as its nice to do nice things

Castle....maybe you are right

Blueidgirl......those are the things I did and still got curb-checked.......hey ho, wasnt meant to be obviously

Answer 1

Romance is a bit dead I suppose but comedy isn't. Give me a man that makes me laugh any day than a man who is soppy.

Answer 2

I'm still a romantic and I still open doors and pull chairs away for ladies to sit. I help women take prams up stairs and I do a whole lot of things that my father taught me during my childhood. Strangely, they don't seem to be appreciated the way they were only a few years ago. They even make some women nervous. In fact, I've been asked by current girlfriends not to open car doors for them!

We don't seem to have the time nowadays to fully appreciate the good things that come from good manners and this is seeping into our relationships. We're relegating romance to that movie between adverts that our lives have become and frankly, that is wrong.

What are we working our tails off for if it isn't to enjoy ourselves, to savour the moments with our loved ones? Why should romance be cornered into Valentine's day and a few anniversaries (who else celebrates monthiversaries? I used to every 29th of the month) or be considered mush.

I guess our social values are on the way to losing another item on the list. A bit like nobody being able to understand the quotes in Latin in classic novels.

Before you go home tonight, give yourself a moment and e-mail your wife/husband or SMS them and tell them you love them and grab a bunch of post it notes, write something from the heart and hide them all over the house when you get home: pockets, purses, drawers, book pages. Corny but oh so good!

Answer 3

I believe that romance is dead! I'm 36, have been married and divorced and still to this day i have never even received flowers. No doors opened by my mate, no surprise present just because, no love letters. I look at my grandparents and they are still holding hands, giving each other little looks etc and they are in their 80's. I think that that is totally sweet and someday hope to find someone like that.... if he exists. Maybe if men and women both took more of an effort to make the other feel special, relationships would last longer. Think how happy it would make you feel to wake up in the morning and see a quick little love note on the pillow beside you. Or opening your lunch at work and there being a note telling you how special your are! These are the little things that i am looking for and i'm hoping that someone like this still exists. Don't give up, there are some of us out there!

Answer 4

Romance sure is dead, thanks to so many women with low (or no) self-esteem who are willing to have sex with all the guys they date. The old saying is, "why would a guy want to buy the cow when the milk is always free?" I read where Andy Rooney (60 Minutes) said that 80% of women today are against marriage. They say "why buy the entire pig just to get a little sausage." I thought that was very funny. It's too bad people are not more romantic. I know I would be with the right guy but who can you trust now? There are so many con-artists and dishonest men out there, it's hard to tell who is real.

Answer 5

I don't think romance is dead at all. I know quite a few romantics...so they're still around and about. ;) And I think people do still appreciate romantic gestures, I know I certainly do - but it does depend on the person and the relationship.

It's perhaps a little harder nowadays to be romantic all the time because we all have to work and days are busy. But that doesn't mean people aren't closet-romantics, deep down inside. ;)

Answer 6

It depends on the person.

I would say that you find out what a person in like in the initial meeting when you are talking about what you like from what you don't like. This is also a good time to let the person know that you are a romantic and watch their reaction.

It does depend on how a person feels about people, love, affection and their attitude towards relationships.

Sometimes even if a person is not so romantic you can teach them if they feel secure in your company and they like you a lot.

Answer 7

I think romance is dead for the most part. While I was single, I was dating a lot of different women and quite honestly, I didn't have to romance them, they made it far too easy to have sex . I mean It got to the point to where if i had to wait more than 2 or 3 dates/meetings to have sex, i quit calling . It was that easy..and then i met my wife, lol and all those days are over but it truly does make romance unnecessary. So I think your theory is very true.

Answer 8

You don't do nice things in a relationship to receive things or to get thanks-maybe that's your problem-expectations? My partner & I have been together 9 years & we still manage to be romantic all the time.And Earth angle20-what the hell are you waffling on about gays & lesbians for? all people are capable of romance-yes,even the homosexuals believe it or not!!

Answer 9

Some people are more romantic than others
For those who are truely romantic at heart, romance has not died in the modern world; every geture and every moment of it is loved.

Answer 10

Of course romance is dead! because it's not appreciated anymore! People dont' even have to try at romance they can buy "romantic card" copy "romantic poems and gesture" it doesn't mean anything you've got to be individual and spontaneous that's whats romantic these days not cliche's!