Trouble excepting money for bills from my boyfriend?

Question

I have been living with my boyfriend for a couple months now, and he goes to school and works part-time. He makes ok money, but doesn't really have enough hours to make a ton of it. The problem is I feel really weird about taking his money and Im not sure why. I think it's because I've supported myself since I was 16 and I almost feel like it's excepting "help" and it bothers me. I wish I didn't feel this way, but I do. I can't really explain it.

I think part of my issue might be that I have to ask for the money, and I hate doing it. Even when he asks how much bills are and so on, I feel weird telling him.

Any suggestions how I can make myself more comfortable with excepting his money for bills?

Umm I should have mentioned...I have a job, always have. He is simply paying for HIS share of OUR bills. He is NOT covering my butt in any way shape or form!

Answer 1

Getting money is hard that is why marry couple have join account. So basically you just go in and use the money freely. Beside getting marry, boyfriend and girlfriend can do that to. Just use the money for expense and you are find.

Answer 2

Either get a job so you can pay bills with your own money or just accept the money from him. You say you're living with him so the bills are shared expenses. When he pays the bills they're his bills too. When all else fails, try talking with him about your feelings on this.

Answer 3

I understand this sentiment....sometimes it is difficult accept someone's generosity.

As Marcellas Wallace from Pulp Fiction would say in that scene with Bruce Willis...."You feel that sting? That's PRIDE....effin' with you....."

Everyone has cycles in their life where they need each other. He made need you in another capacity. You can't quantify "giving" under these restrictions.

If he is okay with doing it, accept it until you get back on your feet. And be just as generous to him as you can with whatever you have to offer.

Good Luck!!