We have told eachother "I love you" and she seems to be happy with the relationship...but I feel that I have lost the spark that I once had for her. When we used to hang out I would get that feeling in the pit of my stomach..I was excited to be in her company...it was thrilling.....however now I feel I have lost that feeling. She doesn't give me the feeling she once did. I now feel almost too comfortable around her. I don't feel I have to entertain her anymore and our interactions are getting less FUN. Will I end up falling in love with her or is this relationship going nowhere? Am I doing something wrong?
2007-01-24 03:46:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are both 19 and in college.
2007-01-24 06:40:12 · update #1
We've been together for about 4 months now
2007-01-24 06:42:09 · update #2
You are getting what I imagine a lot of men get and maybe women too. You have gotten too comfortable with your girlfriend. This usually happens after you express love for each other and now you don't feel the need to win her over because you have already done that. Now reprogram your mind to think that the same things you did to win her over, you will need to continue to do to keep her. It's all in how you program your mind to think. Good luck.
2007-01-24 03:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i am not any good at this stuff but i'm guessing it's just that you both know each other so well it's not as exciting as it once was. But in the end...remember, what girl WON'T you get comfortable around after being with her a long time. if you get married some day, your not going to still feel a spark when your 80 will you??(would be cool tho) so don't break up with her just cuz your bored cuz it the end it's the friendship and love(true love, not just butterflies) that keeps you together
2007-01-24 11:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by shine_on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same feelings right now. Too much of a good thing can turn into something not worth fighting for. You need to spark the relationship with something new and exciting. And definately see less of eachother. The less you see her the more you'll want her. And the more you'll have to talk about around eachother. Try to recreate your first dates when you were excited about eachother. It's beginning to work for me.
2007-01-24 11:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Freddie xoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing something a little different with the time you spend together. The two of you may just be in a rut.
Relationships are not always sparkles and fireworks. They take work, they should be comfortable, but not dull on a neverending basis. If you feel like you have to always entertain her, then that will get to be a real drag before long.
2007-01-24 11:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt mention your ages. If your younger its probably not goign anywhere and was just puppy love. If you are a mature adult you realize that love isnt always exciting and fun and that it is not the other persons job to "entertain" you constantly. What you are describing is the chemical reaction anyone feels in a new relationship not actual love. Butterflies go away when your brain stops producing those chemicals...Love never does.
2007-01-24 11:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by chcknbizkit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don' t worry, i know how you feel. my boyfriend and i have been together, and i dont get that feeling anymore either. his family is amazing andi just love them, but im not sure if that feeling is still there. its really hard to deal with, and i dont wanna hurt him, cause i really do care about him, but i dont wanna hurt myself either by staying with him and possibly mising out on a good opportunity for myself. so to answer your question, if you feel like your relationship still has a chance, DONT GI VE UP!!, but if you feel like your trapped and have no where to go, dont stay with her to keep from hurting her. i know it will be hard and it may hurt you too, but it is better to be honest now before things get too serious. go with your gut feeling. give it a little more time and if you still feel that your feelings are null, tell her you need a break. maybe a break is all you need or maybe yall are just better as friends. good luck!
2007-01-24 11:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by BBB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The honeymoon phase is over. This is why relationships take work, you have to make an effort, and imagine people spend their entire lives together...not everyday is that way.
2007-01-24 11:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE THE NEWNESS IS WEARING OFF. TRY SPENDING A FEW DAYS APART FROM HER AND SEE HOW YOU FEEL THEN. IF YOU MISS HER, THATS GOOD. IF YOU FEEL A SENSE OF RELIEF OR FREEDOM YOU MIGHT CONSIDER SOMETHING DIFFERENT.
2007-01-24 11:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by MEESH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try and distance yourself. Too much of a good thing is always best.
2007-01-24 11:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by RobMorris9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋