My boy went away on a course for the military on Sunday , he did not call until last night (Tuesday)..he had access to a phone the whole time but I think he was busy hanging with the boys and playing video games and drinking (some). Should I be mad with him or just appreciate the fact that he called at all - cause he had sad that he may not be able to contact me all week.....although he did leave his cell phone at home purposely!!
2007-01-24 03:43:55 · 37 answers · asked by valleygal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is only working two 12 hour shifts for the 4 and half days he is there....the rest of the time he is drinking and playing xbox with the boys
2007-01-24 08:57:41 · update #1
It was only two days.. Calm down.. As for leaving his cell phone at home you can always mail it to him.. lol He is probably having a good time with the boys, Just say to him that its hard being away from him and you would appreciate a call more often even if its only for ten minutes.
2007-01-24 03:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to be in the military, you better get used to not hearing from him daily. Some wives don't hear from their husbands for a lot longer than 2 days. If he was taking a course, maybe he was busy learning what he needed to and meeting his fellow soldiers. I wouldn't be mad at him at all. Appreciate the phone calls that you do get and make the most of them. Don't over analyze. And yes, boys will be boys! When they get together they do guy stuff and don't always think to call. That is just the way it is. So like i said, appreciate the calls you do get and let him know how much you care for him every time you speak. God willing, you will have many many years with him. Good luck and take care!
2007-01-24 03:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by blueidgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever been through military training?
No?
Then shut up and stop being such a self centered, high maintenance twit.
So WHAT if he's hanging with the rest of the platoon? He's probably exhausted from the physical stress, tired and in need of some rest at the end of the day.
Not to mention the fact that he's probably thinking about the combat situations he's training for. That's not going to be a fun thing to ponder.
Try having some understanding for a man being trained for a more dangerous and challenging job than you could even think of doing.
I knew a guy who pissed and moaned about his girlfriend the same way you are. She was at boot camp, going on training exercises and gearing up to be a soldier.
We all thought he was a whiny little brat, and that she deserved a man who could respect her for what she was doing, and not give her flack for failing to fuss over him with every waking moment.
No, you should NOT be mad at your boyfriend. He, however, should drop your high maintenance rear and find someone who wants to actually be involved with a soldier, instead of a needy brat who just thinks she looks good with a man in uniform on her arm.
2007-01-24 04:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably not supposed to bring his cell phone to military courses. Just a guess.
He might have been busy and tired. Or yeah, maybe he was just having some fun with the guys and lost track of time.
I guess whether you should be mad or not depends on how you feel about it. Are you that heartbroken that he didn't call until now? It was only a couple of days.
2007-01-24 03:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. If he had called and told you he was leaving, you'd have gotten all emotional and more than likely started crying. It' s hard enough on a guy to leave his loved ones behind but when his girl is on the line, it's particularly tough on him, why do you think he was drinking?
Appreciate the fact he did call after all he did leave his cell with you thinking he'd be back to get it.
2007-01-24 03:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. I got mad at first, but, then realized that, not only was he bonding with his new friends/co-workers , but, if he snuck off every so often to call, he'd be called a p*ssy or whipped or all those things that guys call eachother. These are guys that he's gonna need to depend on to have his back & potentially save his life, so, he needs to be friendly with them & all get to know eachother better.
2007-01-24 03:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Maria Rose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He told you before-hand that he'd likely be out of contact. If anything, you should consider it a pleasant surprise that he called you at all.
It doesn't mean you're not important to him. He was considerate in telling you that he'd be away, and that you likely would not hear from him. Had it been a complete surprise, *then* you'd have cause for concern.
2007-01-24 03:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by tfmemnoch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe the best. And do not have expectations of him, this way you do not get disappointed. If you are secure in knowing he loves you, then he will initiate action to let you know he is thinking of you. You have no reason to be angry. Stay busy and focus on you or his absence will drive you crazy, not to mention you will jump everytime the phone rings.
2007-01-24 03:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by LisaLou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MMM, He is in trouble, but don't be too hard on him. He's going through alot of changes in making such an important step to serve this country, expecially right now. You can only guess at what he was really doing. Give him a break.
2007-01-24 03:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by lcsotter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being angry with him would be childish and petty in my opinion. You think you know what he is doing while away, but in truth you have no idea what he is doing and how much of his time is taken up with this course. If he is serious about his career, he will be spending time on the course. Either you love him and trust him or you don't.
2007-01-24 03:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by magicman116 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋