Baptisim questions, re: Girlfriend, Father and Daughter.?

Question

My religion is Methodist, My boyfriend was raised Southern Baptists and his 9 yr old daughter has not been informed enough to choose a religion, other than christianity.
None of us our baptisied, My family believed it was my choice to ask for it when I was ready and know at 34 I am.
We all want to be baptisied together, working on the details of that
due to the two different practices.
My concern is his daughter, she lives with us every other year and
she attends a baptist church with her girlfriend and family. Her mother lives out of state and there is NO conduct with her unless it envolves picking up the child or a court date. She does speak to
her mom weekly on the phone, though. Anyway's my question is
do you think the mom should be envolved in the decision of baptisim and choosing the faith? This is a pretty hostel relationship anyways with the father and mother, but I personally don't want to affend her. She doesnot attend church (as far as I know).

Please donot commet about Adultrey.
The father and mother were never married
and had a child at a young age. They could not make it work and decided to seperate after 4 years of trying (with the child). A broken home is better for a child if the environment is not hostel.. Would you prefer the child be raised in the home of the original mother and father and see and hear abuse? Please be rational with your answers and live in this century.

I personally don't care for the mother, but
I am always making sure she is not affended or hurt by our actions (even though they do not envolve her).

Answer 1

This has to be a decision made by both parents. If both do not agree, forget it.

Answer 2

You're in a tough spot with a mixed family situation. I hope you find resolution.

With that said, you have request my opioion. Baptisim is not required to be saved. We are saved by the Grace of God. Faith is all that is reqired. However, I understand your thoughts on baptisim. I would let your boyfriends daughter wait and make her own mind up when she is ready.

I think she is a child in Gods eyes untill she is 20. There is no rush. I would include her in all that you do.

It's tough to fit into a new family. Don't rush it nor try and take the place of her mother. Look to her with love, give love and kindness. She will come to love you as well.

My best to you and your new family.

Answer 3

We alone are responsible for our baptism decision. So I would say 100% The child's decision. Otherwise it is a public bath with no meaning.
I was not aware that the Southern Baptist and Methodist had any differences other then a few dogmas that do not effect our relationship with GOD through Jesus. I have been both and see it like Wal Mart / Target. They both accomplish the same thing.

Answer 4

If the daughter wants to do this along w/ you all,I would say she needs to go to her mother and explain the situation and try to get the okay from her mom.Also like you said in your family you don't get baptized until you choose to,I think a nine year old isn't old enough to make that kind of decision yet in her life,your 34 and just now making this decision.I hope it all works out for you all!

Answer 5

The second Vatican Council restored for the Latin Church "the catechumenate for adults, comprising several distinct steps." The rites for these stages are to be found in the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults (RCIA). The Council also gives permission that: "In mission countries, in addition to what is furnished by the Christian tradition, those elements of initiation rites may be admitted which are already in use among some peoples insofar as they can be adapted to the Christian ritual."

Today in all the rites, Latin and Eastern, the Christian initiation of adults begins with their entry into the catechumenate and reaches its culmination in a single celebration of the three sacraments of initiation: Baptism, Confirmation, and the Eucharist

There are issues among yourselve that need to be addressed.

Answer 6

if the girl wishes to be babtised christian that is great I do not think the denomination matters I was babtised in an angocan church age 35 with 8 others mostly women and 2 teenagers 2 men. it was after an adult babtism course. look for a church running a course you can all atend.
sorry as an adult it was a convermation class but 3 of us had to be babtised first. and if her mum is not attending church I do not think she would wont to be involved as you said it is the childs choice.

Answer 7

Unless the daughter has faith in Christ Baptism doesnt do any good. It should be the 9 year old choice and no one else to be baptised, but as parents you should be able to raise her in church.

Answer 8

The decisions for hte child should be between the mother and the father. Allow them to work it out.

Answer 9

Would you want to have a say if your husband wanted to make a decision concerning your daughter's belief system? I think you should probably involve him in the process, or else he may take it out on you by pushing her in other directions.

Answer 10

. Anyway's my question is
do you think the mom should be envolved in the decision of baptisim and choosing the faith?

I would HOPE that at 9 years of age she is at the age of reason.

It is HER DECISION ALONE!

Answer 11

i think you should let the child decide and if the child cant choose where the child is happiest hope you the best of luck. b blessed