I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he has a gf. I told him I liked him and I felt it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should do it with another guy I like. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. The thing is I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. He ignored me and we've been ignoring each other for the past 3 weeks and now it is awkward and i miss talking to him sometimes. Yesterday, I got a b-day card from some of my coworkers. He wrote Happy Birthday, but didn't sign his name.
2007-01-24 03:41:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How old are you again?
2007-01-24 03:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Willie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, did you say this was work or high school? Sounds like high school. You went the wrong way when you texted him your feelings instead of talking to him and he's ignoring you because that's what you told him to do. If he is still very important to you, give him the space and time that he needs. Still say hi to him and smile at him when you see him and he will come around when he is ready.
Oh and for future reference, never start a relationship with a coworker. If you have a fight it follows you to work and you get really distracted and your work will suffer.
2007-01-24 03:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by Vasago 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to look on the bright side...you sound like you escaped a HUGE disaster in the making if anything more had've happened.
Just give it some more time. You sound like some extra distance for another month or so isn't going to hurt. Wait a few more weeks then invite him out to lunch with a group of other co-workers. This is a pretty easy way to extend the peace flag without having to have a deep conversation about the whole situation.
2007-01-24 03:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave this guy alone until he is comfortable with the situation. You say he is a good friend, but you made things tough for him when you admitted your feelings even though you knew he had a girlfriend. He has made his feelings clear, you made him uncomfortable and probably hurt your relationship with him badly. You have done what you need to do by applogizing and now you should just give him space and time.
2007-01-24 03:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by magicman116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bebe,
I still see that you haven't heeded my advice. You picked me as your Best Answer, and didn't do what I suggested.
Leave this guy alone. You're making his work environment uncomfortable....its just all too much for him.
You can't make someone do the things that you want them to do. Free will, remember?
Relax. Breathe. Find someone that interests you. Sure, it will take time and effort...but that's all we really have is time.
Good luck with this but Bebe, you have to back off a bit.
2007-01-24 03:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why did you apologize to him? He was jerking you around and making light of your feelings towards him. I think you need to move on. If he's not willing to talk to you, the let it go. I'm sure you miss talking to him, but if that's how he wants to treat you, he obviously wasn't as good a friend as you thought.
2007-01-24 03:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is see in your self and find out if you still want him to ignore you so that you can get over him you might need to grasp the fact that he has a GF and cant be with you... remember you were the one that told him to ignore you so that you could get over him.....
if you just want to be friends and continue talking to him then you need to tell him that you are sorry for everything and you completely understand that you and him are never going to be more and that you still want to talk to him....**he should defiantly stop ignoring you after this
2007-01-24 03:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by Just ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it's over - move on honey. It's not worth it waiting for someone that is already in a committed relationship.
2007-01-24 03:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
excuse me what are you asking?? i mean you did it.. your the one who told him we should act as professionals and ignore each other so he took your advice...
i m not semathizing with him for jerking your feelings but sounds like you did this to yourself.. sorry
2007-01-24 03:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by casey e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not complicated. It's very simple. Forget it, and move on. Focus on finding someone who IS single, and NOT at your workplace.
2007-01-24 03:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him, say so.
Don't play games.
Just say. "I want a date with you."
All the mystery is gone.
He knows that you like him.
And then you can play the dating game.
Buy him dinner, he will turn that down!
2007-01-24 03:56:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋