My question is, do woman compare men in regards to the sexual ability? For instance, I have a girlfriend that I'm seeing now. We dated in the past, but we parted ways for a while and we started seeing other people. We are back together now and only for a short time. Will she compare what I do sexually with what her last partner did? If I don't stack up in all areas, will that be a problem? I myself don't compare one woman's sexual ability to anothers. I totally forget about the last person when I'm with someone new. What do you people think?
2007-01-24 03:36:27 · 24 answers · asked by Northstarr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been involved in a lot of relationships, and I can tell you from my own personal experience that it's much more about how a man makes me feel then about comparable details. I mean in a new relationship you are just into the new person - the past is behind you. And when you reminisce about old times, it's really the overall feeling that is associated with a past lover - he was really fun or what a needy jerk etc.
My point is that many of my previous boyfriends I still think of very warmly but for a variety of reasons and none of them had anything to do with comparing sexual ability. What is interesting is to see the similarities in a few of the important past boyfriends and my husbance. It's like foreshadowing in a book - life is truly fascinating (and elegant in hindsight).
Peace!
PS - I don't talk to my friends about how well endowed my lover is - but they can see if I am happy and they are the people I will turn to if I am having problems in any area of my life. We are comfortable talking to one another and learning stuff together (sharing our experiences and what we have heard) - there is nothing wrong with that.
2007-01-24 03:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, women do compare men in regards to sexual ability. However, if she is mature about it, she will realize that good sexual relations grow with a relationship. It shouldn't be a problem if you don't "stack up" in all areas, if she realizes that it isn't just a sexual relationship, but an emotional one too. In growing with the relationship, partners who are open with each other about what they want, will end up having a satisfied sexual relationship with each other, and even better a loving and satisfying relationship all together.
2007-01-24 03:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women do compare men sexually, but sometimes it doesn't matter. Especially if the man she is in a relationship with is stimulating her emotionally and mentally. If another guy before him was better, then it won't matter if she has a bond a intamacy with her boyfriend. It's all about confidence too (I said confidence not *********). It's a turnoff if you're not confident, even if you're not that great in bed. At least make an effort.
2007-01-24 03:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we usually compare. That does not mean there will be a problem if you don't stack up in all areas....you can be great in bed, but an inconsiderate idiot the rest of the time. If you are one heck of a guy out of bed, trust me ~ we would get where we want/need to go in bed. Being in love makes the lovemaking better automatically.
2007-01-24 03:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by ohkathy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women do compare men in regards to sex.
I too had an exgf who made my whole year because she went and told all her friends how much of a bad boy I am in bed and how easily I can find different ways to make her orgasm.
One of her friends waited years to lay her hands on me and finally confessed that she had been obsessed with me since she became friends with my ex. She was lots of fun but way too obsessed. I was a bit disturbed to find out she knew way to much about my sexual life though!
2007-01-24 03:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Willie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will because we all do and it's human nature. But keep in mind that women put a different priority on sex than men. A good sex life is important in a relationship, but so is trust, fidelity and respect; those things score much higher on the comparison scale than sex.
Don't over think this and let it get in the way of your relationship.
2007-01-24 03:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, that is one reason why premarital sex causes problems . . . it puts doubt in the man's mind (and the woman's mind too, I suppose). Not only that, but it can spread disease and lead to unwanted pregnancy. I don't think they can help but notice how you're different from the other men they've been with. How much it matters to them depends on the woman. But if she's a good woman and she loves you, she will think you are AMPLE for her or else be very willing to teach you how to please her. Good luck!
2007-01-24 03:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I am with someone my focus is only on that person. I do not feel women have a little note pad and say to themselves, "lets see, how do I rate this one". It is the love experience that matters most to me. In other words, the more loving and kind and considerate my lover is, is what I want most, these feelings heightened the performance. Stop your worrying, just be loving to her and you will be great!
2007-01-24 03:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so concerned with little things like that. If she cares for you that is all that matters. Women are not as obsessed about sexual performance as you men are. All that stuff can be worked on together. You need to work on your self-esteem issues.
2007-01-24 03:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by Ikkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes, but I'm not sure if that's really what you want to hear. Your question sounds like you are not very confident in this department and therefore are questioning it. Don't worry about it and concentrate on making it the best she's ever had every time.
2007-01-24 03:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋