Help me out, should i leave the church or stay?

Question

Am attending one of these new charistmatic churches, i was once a member of the church choir, we were once having a choir practice and a colleague of mine raised a song we all laughed but i went out because my phone was ringing, so this means it was a coincidence but the fellow taught is becus of the song she raised that made me laugh to the extend of me going out to laught the more. she reported it to our pastor and made me received some kind of talk from our pastor which i didn't liked it so i decided to stay in the house on the following Sunday, my pastor asked of me and he was told i didn't come to church so he assigned his wife to cancel my name from the choir, i accepted but all am trying to say is, they now want me back into the church choir which i've vowed to myself never to step foot in that choir because i couldn't get a fellow to defend me when they were putting all the blame on me. and for that matter, i've joined another church. is it the right thing to do. help, thanks

Answer 1

Well first off i don't know what "raised a song" means.
Second of all you shouldnt have your phone on in church..and if you forget and you get a call you should just hang up. You don't walk out of service for that.

Answer 2

don't go back

someone should have had a level head in this situation and been the voice of reason. no one was. the pastor shouldnt have scolded you like a child without asking you what happened and then maybe talking to both of you-he's a man not god

to decide to remove you from the choir on top of everything was even worse-what if she had lied (imagine a churchgoer doing that) or gave her version of the truth of which there are always 3 versions what happened, what you recall and what i recall-doesnt mean anyone is lying in fact, just that the truth lies somehwere in between. thank them for their invitation and let them know that there are no hard feelings but you have found a new church home which better suits your spiritual needs and that you may visit the church in the future.

Show the pastore this post and keep praising God!

Answer 3

I really dislike it when people assume and act on those assumptions without thinking of the effect they're actions may have. In this case, 2 people had the opportunity to first ask you why you left rather than to assume they knew you'd done so for reasons of hysteria....and both showed their stupidity in assuming something that wasn't so. You should speak up. You should tell them your Pastor especially what really happened and how it made you feel to be taken aside and lectured for something he assumed....he should have asked questions first. The person that went to him in the first place...what a snake like thing to do!

Church isn't about the relationship between parishners so much as it is about your relationship with G- - and remember that he is everywhere, all around you and in you, and you will find him everywhere. Be where you can be at peace.

If you speak up, you've done or said all you can about the matter and then let it go, rise above that sort of nonsense, don't allow the actions of others to sour your religious spirit. Let it go, take a deep breath and live life for it's goodness.

Perhaps one day you'll be in a position to ask questions first rather than to assume and you'll make a difference for someone else by doing so.

Whatever you decide, good luck!

Answer 4

This sort of thing is one of the reasons I don't like these charismatic, evangelical churches. Such petty things and you are asked to leave and so forth. So what if you actually DID laugh so hard that you left and went outside? Why is that a cause to put you out of the choir and make you feel as if you need to stay away from church? This sort of thing would never happen in a Catholic Church. In fact, they couldn't do such a thing.

You say you've already joined another Church. Hopefully, they are more Christian there. I would stay there but I would send the Pastor and his wife (That's another thing. Who was hired to be the Pastor? He or his wife? So why does she have so much to say about matters like these?) a letter, saying what you told us here and their unchristian behavior has led you to seek Christ in a more loving and accepting environment.

Answer 5

A lot of people leave churches for a lot of different reasons. If you have actually already joined another church and your happy there then why leave? Its not about the choir or who defended you and what other though you were doing. Where are you happiest and where do you think you will gain the most spiritually? Let that be guide.

Answer 6

I think the church you attend should be one in which you are comfortable: by which I mean it should include your heart-held beliefs. If you can't pray the prayers as they pray, follow the tenets they believe, then find a new church. If it's because you felt wronged, then ok, analyze how you were wronged. If it went with a human mistake, then you can forgive and move on. If it meant with a basic belief against what you feel is right, stay with your new Church. And good god-searching!

Answer 7

There is probably more to the story. You probably were talking on your phone a lot during choir. I am in the choir at my church, and talking on the phone is a no-no. and if you don't show up to church to sing and not call in, I'm not surprised they kicked you off of the choir. But you don't care since you joined another church already. Stay at the new church.

Answer 8

First, does your old church teach the whole Bible as the word of God, and to be obeyed? Or does your new church?

Besides that, I would say that you should go back to your first church. Satan likes to breed discord.

Pray for strenght for the one who could have helped you but did not.

Ask the pastor's wife why she did not believe what you told her (and anyone else involved).

You need to pray (and ask counsel) about going back into the choir because of your vow (but God may not hold you to it because it sounds like you vowed to yourself not God).

The Bible says that we are going to be persecuted (in many ways, from outside and inside also).

Stay close to Jesus.

Answer 9

There will always be people who act indifferent at church and out of church. Remember that GOD knows that everyone sins. The drama that is in church is also everywhere else. All churches have people who act negatively. If you feel the need to change and you would feel more comfortably going then that is your answer. I think you know who wants you out of church. Satan. Don't let him win by pulling out. He already did a good job at stirring up drama in the church.

Answer 10

Spend some time with your favourite copy of the bible, pray and meditate (if thats a part of your spirituality) on what your main question/problem is. Is it should you try to stand up to this and confront your pastor and his wife. Is it should you ignore it and just continue as normal? Is it should you leave and go to another church.
When you have the question do the same to find the answer. This time spend as long as you need in quiet contemplation and listen to what your god is telling you. Your path is your own and what you do is between you and him.

Answer 11

If you don't feel comfortable going to the previous church anymore then I wouldn't go. I'd stick with your current church. If you're being on level with your story, then the whole choir should of got reprimanded, and not just you. Oh, and from now on during choir practice, you might turn your cell off. God bless...