Emotional abuse. I am the victim and now starting to see.?

Question

Me and bf broke up. He has his games, and I am scared he will pull me back in. With the I love you and want to be with you.
I do care for him but IM ready to have a family and a life, something he would not give me.
He brought me down and I am getting my self confidence back.
How do I not fall back into his game?

He says hurtful things to upset me, and does things to upset me. Which I call Emotional abuse.

Answer 1

Always remember the worse things he's done to you and rehearse them in your mind over and over. When you think you're rehearsed enough, do it all again and again and should he give you that crap, you'll be able to shut him down quickly and hopefully once and for all.

Answer 2

I also am in an emotionally abusive relationship with a man I've been with for 2 yrs. I have to say that I think being physically abused would sometimes be better than this. What you are going through is very painful and it is easy to get pulled back in when you still care for him. But you have to write down the hurtful things he says and look at it often, especially when he wants you back. You have to let go completely in order to gain your self-confidence and then try to be alone for awhile until you feel ready for the kind of relationship you desire. Be Strong!!!

Answer 3

By staying away from him. You have no reason to be scared, just remember to give NO THOUGHT to the things he says and does. Do not entertain any thoughts or actions he make take for you or against you. You must be committed to remaining in your "peace zone."
Stay committed to yourself. We, as women, has a tendancy to think and dwell on what the man we care for says and does. If you are done with him, then you can not respond or react to anything he says or does. He may say things to push your buttons or get a reaction out of you, even if it is negative. DO NOT give in, no matter how hurtful or good he can be. Walk away and stay away. TRUST ME, just BE SILENT. SILENT,SILENT. NOT A PEEP. If you have the same freinds and you start hearing things he is saying about you... not a word back girl. No reaction, no response. NOTHING.If others ask what happened, just say it didnt work. No explanations, no clues, no nothing. It will not be easy but you MUST.

Answer 4

You need to cut all contact with him, including changing your number and possibly even moving. Block him from your email address, or get a new one. Otherwise he will find a way to suck you back into his sick, twisted little games and you will be stuck in a vicious cycle. TRUST ME, I HAVE BEEN THERE! He will figure out a way to catch you in a weak moment, and then you have to start all over again. He won't stop treating you this way if he is in your life in any way! You must be strong and don't let him have this control over you! If you need to discuss this more, email me. Good luck!

Answer 5

You need to distance yourself from this person. Stay away from him. Don't let his tricky phrases fool you. Next time he tries to contact you, just remember how you're feeling now. Life's too short to be with someone who's just going to yank your chain and make you feel bad about yourself. If your ex really cared about you, he wouldn't be doing these things. Find someone who is worthy of you and will treat you with dignity, respect, and love...and who won't play games. You're better than that.

Answer 6

he obviously has no confidence in himself, hence his trying to destroy your confidence as well. and as you stated, he at least in part succeeded in doing so. you mentioned you're on the right path now. keep your eyes straight ahead and walk a narrow path. if you look to either side................. well you already know.

Answer 7

you need to stay strong an be determined.

Find a man that will respect you and treat you like a woman

Answer 8

THE BIGGER QUESTION IS WHY DO YOU KEEP GOING BACK KNOWING WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN.

Answer 9

What did he say?