The woman is in need of his attention and has shown me i will not stand in her way. When a group of friends were walking to a table to sit down and eat she ran around me,bumping into me, so she could sit next to my man, I stood behind her and said her name and she turned her back to me and ignorged me. Another time my honey said to me ,honey I need help, I said just a sec and when I started walkin towards him she stepped in front of me and took care of his problem. She e-mails or has her husband call my man quite often because they miss us and love us and want to come over,when they do she makes no effort to speak to me but will be polite and talk if I start a conversation She kisses him on the lips goodbye a bit to long. My honey is outgoing and friendly and I feel has been to friendly towards her at times holding her close while huggin 1 min long. She has become snippy and angry when I tell her we are busy .My honey says I have to work it out. I am hurt and do not know what to do
2007-01-24 03:28:17 · 16 answers · asked by deerevaz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your honey is WRONG! You have been patient too long. If he can't show you some loyalty and respect for you feelings, I would seriously consider finding a new honey. What a jerk. The problem isn't necessarily her, it's that he won't set boundaries for her. He shouldn't be comfortable with her acting like that towards the two of you. It's his problem for allowing you to feel hurt and defensive. She is definately crossing the line. I don't like to play games, but have you thought about turning the tables on her and acting like that towards her husband? Or another man who can understand what it going on? If you aren't able to command respect for yourself, don't expect to get it.
2007-01-24 03:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Yomi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will beat her ***. Well if her man is good looking i would b very friendly with him and see how they like it. Or i guess the best thing 2 do is talk 2 ur soon 2 b husband and tell him how u feel. I don't care how long they have been friends I think they r taking it a little 2 far by kissing in the mouth or the hugging 4 2 long and etc. U need 2 stand up 4 urself and speak ur peace.
2007-01-24 03:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though ur about to be married to this guy, u know what i think, i think u shod break off the engagement. He is not worth the time of day or night. He doesn't care for and love u that much as far as i can see, cuz if he did, he will tell that b**** to step off no matter if they are friends, he shouldn't let her kiss him on the lips an seems like he enjoys it, When u get married it just gona get worse and u sound like a nice lady with sense, so do what is rite.
But if u love him and he loves u that much he will stop being friends with that she devil and pay more attention to u.
2007-01-24 03:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by bootygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT go DOWN to her level. My Mom always said you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Be nice to her and keep her close. You know that old saying keep your friends close and your enemies closer is very true. Point blank ask your guy if there was ever anything between the, If not then maybe she wishes there were. Too bad for her!!! Let your man know when something bothers you but wait until the "friends" are gone. You two should be able to work it out together.
2007-01-24 03:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems as if she really doesn't like you and that she has something for your man. I think you should stay away from the couples thing for a while. Explain to your guy exactly how you feel. Also, talk to her husband about. If you just completely stopped being friends with them. They would make it seem as if your trying to control your man's life and friends. Communication works. Let all of them know how you feel. Do it politely and be considerate of her husband's feelings when you tell him about her behavior.
2007-01-24 03:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by ms.knowitall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow!!!!!!!!! i been through that... its very disturbing and feeling of degrading and disrespectful.there are 2 things you can try... one is tell your honey......ENOUGH IS ENOUGH your not going to share him with another woman in any way.. he is to start pushing her off slowly and when he does need your help he should accept yours and only yours even if she steps in. he should remind her your doing fine..as for the kissing..THATS TO STOP NOW.. as a woman sounds more to me like she wants your man. friends DONT lip kiss their husbands friends... EVER..unless is a peck...and honey turn the physcological train around. start flirting and i mean flirting with this womans husband just the same. do wear your low cut sexy clothes , your high heels . do your hair.. give back her game.. and WIN your man... dont be nice to her anymore she IS NOT YOUR FRIEND NOR DOES SHE LIKE YOU..do you have any frineds of yours that kiss your man for to long? lol... keep close to your man touching h im carassing his head.. kissing him.. be very affectionate with your man. as she sits in the same room. she will some how see the hint... if she continues and doesnt stop dissin you...........dont be part of the circle any more and make that a firm statement to your man. he will see you mean buisness and that you wont take her head games anymore. he is the one who has to come to your rescue. you tried everything. its going to be his turn to shut her out.......be stronger..your the better woman here...:)
2007-01-24 03:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by flowerlegz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say next time her husband goes to leave kiss him full on the lips for a little to long. If your soon to be husband reacts to that then you can explain he is now feeling exact what you feel everything his friends wife does it to him. Tell him now they he understands you hope he will respect how you feel and have her stop doing it.
As for her being ignorant and rude, play the game right back to her. Next time she steps in front of you.. Trip and land on her. Next time your walking pass her with that full plate of food, trip let it fall on her. Eventually she will get the hint..
2007-01-24 03:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by Issym 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to work it out? Thats crazy. Tell him he is about to be your husband and he needs to stand up for you and tell her that if she cant show you respect then they are not welcome to come visit anymore. And as for as the hugging for so long, I would put an end to that. ANd there is no way I would put up with the kissing. YOu need to have a talk with your man. The fact that he LETS her kiss and hug him like that says alot about him.
2007-01-24 03:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u feel about this girl explain that u don't want her around u and that she makes u feel like ur nothing and its starting to bother u , believe me if u sit with him and explain in a way where u talking to him ( not at him ) he will understand , if he loves u more then he likes being with her he will agree with u just try to prove what u r saying by making example of what she has done or did to u
2007-01-24 03:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by amal L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell him that she bothers you, and he needs to acknowledge that you are upset about this woman, and handle the situation. If he is going to be your husband, that is a very important part of having a healthy, successful relationship. Maybe you should try talking to her and see what happens from there! Good luck!
2007-01-24 03:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by chizzylene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋