found out we are pregnant and told my parents. They are completely against the move and want us to stay here so they can keep the baby once it is born while I am at work. My mom doesnt want me to put it in daycare and she wants to keep it. However, my husband hates it(he loves to fish and hunt and hasnt in 5 years due to us living in the this place-it is almost the dessert) where we live and he does have a good paying job but he works atleast 120 hours every 2 weeks and we never get to see each other. We are willing to take a smaller house and less paying jobs so we can spend time together. My mom is my best friend and I dont want to upset her but my husband is really wanting to move(he moved 6 hours away from his parents to be with me 5 years ago and now he wants to move in between our parents and his parents)What do I do?
2007-01-24 03:26:07 · 11 answers · asked by 1st-time-mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My parents cant move with us because my dad is a farmer and has to farm everyday. This is the first grandbaby. My brother moved 6 hours away but my sister still lvies at home and is in high school(junior)
2007-01-24 03:27:16 · update #1
Well ,What do you want? I see what your parents want and your husband. how do you feel? Being close to your parents would be alot of help,however the decision is up to you and your husband! Your mom will find a way to see that baby. I'm sure nothing can keep her away.Does he have job lined up for where you are moving to? Babies can be very expensive will you be able to afford the things you need if he changes jobs. If you stay just for a year then decide at least your parents and sister could help you with the baby!
2007-01-24 03:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I live with a hunter/fisherman, and if you think moving will give yall more time together, you are wrong. Once you move, your hubby will be away ever day at work, and every weekend hunting/fishing. Then you will be left alone in a new town with no one to visit. Why not tell your hubby to cut back on hours at work, and take 1 trip a month to hunt/fish. That way, you will still be in the town were you will have family, you and your hubby can spend more time together, and you might even get free daycare from your mom and teenage sister. Please take my advice, if I could go back and do it all over again, I would have never moved for my hubby.
2007-01-24 11:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by kerbear7703 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say make the move. You are only moving 4 hours away. Your parents can take a day and drive there, visit for a couple of hours then drive back if he has to be home everyday. Also, if you are moving in the middle of both sets of parents, then your husbands parents will also have a better chance at seeing their grandchild grow up. As for upsetting your mom, well, your a married woman having a baby. It is time your mom accepts the fact that you have your own life to lead. My mom and i are best friends as well, and we both make the effort for her to see my kids. Good Luck with both your pregnancy and your move!!
2007-01-24 12:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by blueidgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move. Your mum has to realise that she has had her kids now it's your turn and your right to live & bring up ur child anyway you and your husband wishes. Let her know she would be welcome to visit and you will visit her when ever you can but your life is with your husband not your mum. It does mean you don't love her it just means it's time to think of you and your husband.
2007-01-24 12:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must do what is best for you not what is best for you mother. Reassure her that you will make sure she gets to see the child often, explain to her all the reasons for your move, if she is really your best friend she will understand.
My daughter and I are best friends and she recently moved to another country to study. I miss her a lot but I understand she has her life to live.
2007-01-24 11:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, your husband should be your best friend, even before your mother. You should talk with your husband and do whatever it takes to be at peace with him. I know it's hard to leave your parents and this situation doesn't make it any easier. But your life is with your husband, not your mother. So make him happy first.
2007-01-24 11:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it sounds fair living between each of your parents and its your happiness that counts they can visit.
2007-01-24 19:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move. It's time for you to be more independent. Your husband had already made his sacrifice, it's time for you to do the same. I know it's hard, but it will be best for your own family.
2007-01-24 11:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mom can visit she has raised u now its time for you to raise your own child .
2007-01-24 11:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please, tell her to visit..Its nice to have a grandma around when you have the kid, because its a lot of work..
But this is your life, not hers..Kids grow up..She just needs to accept that..
2007-01-24 11:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by kitsune12 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋