my half sister lives with her mom and my dad isn't a good parent. her mother really isn't either. she doesn't work and my sister goes without food sometimes. she's always moving my sister around and she's 11 and in school. is there any way i can get custody of her so she can stay in a stable school and make friends. i know how important childhood friends are in the development of children and she's unable to keep them because of the constant moving. i'm 20, working full time, living on my own with my bf in a house with an extra bedroom. i know if it was based on best interest of the child she'd choose to live with me. i teach her things and make her do her homework. i help her with problems and i make sure she does chores before going out to play. the house she lives in is always dirty unless she cleans it. she's been fixing her own food since she was 8 because her mom wouldn't do anything. her mom always brings random guys in the house and i don't think that's good for my sis to see.
2007-01-24 03:17:44 · 5 answers · asked by Back*To*Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she knows i have a bf and she knows about sex and whatnot. if her mother was bringing the same guy home constantly don't you think that'd be different. her mom has her and another girl by two different guys. my bf is very stable and supportive. he knows how much i love my sister and he knows i'd do anything for her. i'm not going to be bringing random guys in and out of the house.
2007-01-24 03:28:46 · update #1
her mother was never married to my dad. she was just one of his gfs. my dad wanted to get my half sister aborted as well. but her mom thought my sister would make my dad want to marry her and it didn't happen. i've practically raised her anyways. i taught her to walk, potty train, write, tell time all before she started going to school. my name was her first word well not quite it was tata. as for the bf comment: i love him and he loves me and if it comes to the best for my sister he knows i'd get my own place to make her happy.
2007-01-24 03:44:15 · update #2
You said it's your half sister, who lives with "her mother" I'm assuming your father's new wife. How is the mother "always brings random guys in the house" if she is married to your father? If she is not married to your father (anymore) and your ex-stepmother has custody, I don't know if you could just go to court to win it as you have no real rights with this child. However, it sounds like a good idea if you are willing to take that HUGE leap from watching her to being her "parent" Talk to your bf and make sure he's okay with it, then talk to the mother to see if she will allow the child to live with you without getting the courts involved (much easier). If this is the case, make sure you get something IN WRITING from the mother, saying she is giving you all rights to the child (doctor, school, travel, etc). Even still, consult a lawyer because it is a sketchy thing.
I do agree with the whole you living with your "boyfriend" is not exactly teaching her what's right, but it is the norm now.
2007-01-24 03:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say: her mom always brings random guys in the house and i don't think that's good for my sis to see.
But you also say: i'm 20, working full time, living on my own with my bf in a house with an extra bedroom
So, what kind of example are you setting for your impressionable sister when you are shacking?
2007-01-24 11:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by mandingostud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be very nice of you to do! make sure that your b/f is OK with it you don' want your sis to come between you two. and also make sure that your sis likes the idea and then talk to her mom. the mom could like the idea (it would give her more freedom) or she could not like it, if she doesn't like the idea then she is being selfish for not wanting to provide her daughter with a stable environment. good luck (you have a great heart!!!)
2007-01-24 11:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by D.J.4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront the mother and talk about the issues u have just raised with us. If she was smart she would do wat is best for the child.
2007-01-24 19:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwww.take them to cort.thats sad:(.Your hearts in the right place but can you aford to have her live with you?Ask your b/f if its ok.If you have any other ?????? email Brookefuller101@yahoo.com.I know how it feels.
2007-01-24 11:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Animal.Lover.Brooke.101.Rocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋