So my girlfrient and i have been together for about five months, and she told me that she wants to take a break. I am so deeply in love with her and dont want to take a break. I know that its my failt and I promised her that i was going to change. Please give me some advise.
2007-01-24 03:04:19 · 8 answers · asked by evan c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess it depends what kind of break. Some people use this as an excuse to go out and "do" there thing with other people. I do not believe this is the kind of health break for any relationship. If she needs time to think then that is another thing. I guess you need to find out exactly what kind of break is needed. To many people know a days have no respect for relationships and working through hard times. They just want to run away from them till its over and then come back to the relationship. Also you have to figure out if this is something you want to deal with. If she is taking a break only after 5 months, What happens after 2 years when you go through a rough patch?
2007-01-24 03:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through the same thing. I have been with my girlfriend for a little over a year now and last night she told me she wants to take a break to figure things out. I did something that she didn't like and she says that being with me right now is making things worse for us. She said "If we want our relationship to have any chance of working out.... we need to be apart for a while. I don't want to hate you and I think I will start to if we stay together right now." I don't want to take a break either but at the same time; I can't make her want to be with me you know? I (and I think you should do the same) am not going to hold my breath and hope and hope each day that she calls me and wants to get back together. I am going to assume that we are broken up for good and not have any contact with her (I can't do the friends thing with her... it would be too painful). If I never see her again, well it's what I expected. If she calls and wants to work it out, it will be a wonderful surprise. That is the mindset you should have. If you love something let it go. If it comes back to you, it was meant to be. Good luck man. I know it sucks but you'll be fine.
2007-01-24 03:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Alex R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about the overall situation and this has happened to me also so from experience the best way to get her back is to pretend like your ok with it trust me as much as you dont want to you should cuz ive gone about it both ways and the more you say baby i dont wanna take a break or but y i love u the more it pushed him away so i learned the more you say no and dont respect their space and decisions the more they want to be alone its weird the more you say ok baby or yeh maybe your right we should take a break the more she will be like what??!!?? she wont understand y you are so casual about it and if you really dont call her or contact her she will miss you and think of you even more and say to herself hmm i wonder were he is who hes with is he happy etc.. so def give her the break and remember the saying that is so0 true "if you love something let it go if it comes back to u its meant to be if not it wasnt" if you say no i dont wanna break shell only get mad and more frustrated with you and she may even resent you for not being undestanding
2007-01-24 03:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by bkgrl718 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her take a break and don't bother her. It might be her way of breaking up for good- start dealing with it now. Maybe practice on doing that changing FOR YOURSELF while the two of you are apart, but don't call her to tell her every step you've made. DO NOT CALL HER. In your head, you have to end it- move on. If somehow, you do get back together in the future, start from scratch.
2007-01-24 03:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by live75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, you have to respect her wishes. Maybe she just needs time apart, that's not always a bad thing. If she didn't want to be with you, she'd probably just break up with you. She probably needs some time alone to think and be herself, and it wouldn't hurt you either. Sometimes couples need time apart to save the relationship. Time apart is actually healthy because it helps each person to reflect individually. I know it's hard, hang in there!
2007-01-24 03:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by Celestite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its her way of gently breaking up with you. i know its hard, but just accept it. your world will not end and the sun will still rise everyday. you've got to "delete" her from your life and move on, before you get hurt even more. do some soul searching and find out who you really are, because you shouldnt have to change for anyone......
2007-01-24 03:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by chickenpie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its going to be hard but let her go and learn from this experience. It will show you how to be a better person in the next relationship and you should change to better yourself not for no one else.
2007-01-24 03:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by ivonne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really matter, if one person wants to break up then you break up, that's it. Sorry dude. I suggest copious amount of alcohol.
2007-01-24 03:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋