just ended a very long term relationship (3 and half yrs)his fault he has been cheating.... he isnt fighting for me not spoken to him for nearly a week, ive not heard ANYTHING???!!! Feel low like he doesnt care, why doesnt he?Ive not given in and rang him or txt him dnt feel i should make a move IT ISNT MY FAULT IS IT?why do guys do that?
2007-01-24 02:46:08 · 21 answers · asked by Curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's obvious he didn't care when he cheated. You want a cheating liar to beg you to take him back? More than likely, he's not calling you because he's with someone else. He's a cheater. Did you expect him to be remorseful or apologetic? Be glad the idiot is gone and move on.
2007-01-24 02:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitley NOT your fault. You said now you feel like he dosen't care because you have not heard from him since your beak up. The thing is he didn't care that he cheated on you, so why should he care now. He hasn' called you because he doen't care sweetie. You don't deserve this kind of a relationship to be in. Why do men cheat you ask, I wish I knew the answer to that one. There could be so many reasons, ego, thinking with the wrong head. Some men just cant resist to temptation when it comes to other women. Do not blame yourself because if he was going to cheat on you and was mature, he would have come to you like a real man and talked about how he was feeling befoe he went to cheat on you. There is no communication there also. He should have come to you and set down and talked to you and said something isn't right with our relationship what can we do about it, but he never did, why because he DON'T CARe about your feelings only his own. I wish you well and let me tell you fom experience there is someone out there to love you and treat you with RESPECT. Do not tolerate anyone cheating on you ever, GOOD LUCK !!!!!
2007-01-24 10:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by MizzSweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but if he is cheating then he was never 100% into the relationship anyway. If he hasn't talked to you in a week, then you have your answer. If a man wants to be with a woman he will be! You can't force him to be kind to you. This is so not your fault! Have you ever read the book "he is just not that into you"? You may want to read it. I know that it is hard but there are alot of men out there and one that will be faithful - don't give up on yourself - you deserve more than that! Good luck and I will be thinking about you.
2007-01-24 10:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear apparently it seems like he was just using you the whole time you were together. Apparently the girl he was cheating on you with is now the center of his attention, and he dosen't want to call you. My best advice is to move on and forget him, I know it will be hard because you spent so much time together, but there are times that you do need to move on no matter how hard it hurts. Do not call him, do not text him, it will just make you seem like you are desperate and made the wrong decision, don't give him the satisfaction. If he wants to talk to you he will call you.
It's not your fault, you did nothing wrong. Guys are just creeps, and you just gotta deal with that. I hope things get better for you, just for now, stay single for a little while, play the feild and find someone who thinks you hung the moon. :)
2007-01-24 10:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship to him was probably over long before you knew it to be. You are right in not calling him. If you do, you will probably think you will feel instant relief for all your pain, but you will lose your self respect in his eyes. I know this hurts, but as you said he has not been fighting for you. This should be your answer. Now he could be testing your strenght, seeing if you will give in, this will let him know how far he can go with this, in other words how much you are willing to take from him. Some guys get especially when are at a young age, get tempted to go out with other girls, but they still want their girlfriend. So they see what they can get away with and what they can't. If he sees for sure that you will not tolerate this, and he really loves you, then his love for you will bring him back to you. It is up to you, either you show him you take it or you show him you won't. Be strong, you will feel better in the end. My heart and best wishes go out to you!
2007-01-24 10:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is soo wrong what he did to you but you know what guys do that because some are just jerks who dont appreciate something good and throw it all away for a nut its sad but hey better now then later im with my bf for over 3 yrs also and god knows we have our probs just read my questions lol but you know what if he cheated on me it would kill me but i would know that he is definatly not the one for me and would not even want him to call me in fact id want nothing to do with him and so shouldnt you i know it hurts that he hurt you and doesnt even try to make it right but it will make it easier on you then if he came back and swept you off your feet only to cheat again the next day/week etc... just remember 1. he doesnt deserve you 2. the sooner you get over him the sooner you can find a man that deserves you and appreciates you(does not cheat) 3.hes better off alone cuz he is a selfish,careless J off and if he didnt want a relationship he shouldve told you and broke uo and did his thing with those $luts hes been sleepn with
2007-01-24 11:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by bkgrl718 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't break ur head wondering y guys do that because not all guys r the same. Move on and 4 get about him he was no good 4 u, u deserve better. If he acts like he doesn't care then u act like if u don't care u will get over him and u will find urself someone who loves u and only u. Good luck.
2007-01-24 10:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are hurting right now but screw the jerk. You deserve better. There is no explanation he can give you for cheating. It is not your fault. He obviously doesn't care or he wouldn't have cheated. He may come running back when he's done messing with her. You would be crazy to take him back. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-01-24 10:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't text him, don't talk to him, you need space and time to heal and move on. He's not fighting for you, plus he cheated on you. The only person you should be concerned with is you at this point and moving on with your life.
I don't know why guys do that, but girls do that sometimes as well. Sometimes things don't work out, and in this case things with him aren't working out and that's a good thing. Move on and eventually you'll find someone who won't cheat on you and will fight for you. Good luck.
2007-01-24 10:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by little miss green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every man feels like he is on vacation during the first break-up weeks.He gets to catch up with a lot of stuff and he thinks is free.He will be missing you in a while for two reasons:
1] He loves you
2]He misses the usual ;don't confuse that with love.
2007-01-24 10:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by eugen272000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋