What age gap is considered the "Older woman, younger man relationship?"?

Question

Age differences can be less dramatic as we age. But in a younger man older woman relationship, what really defines the "older woman?". I have seen some articles stating anything 10 year or more. Say the woman is 53, and the man is 44, doesn't seem to be a big deal, than say a 43 year old woman and a 26 year old man. I would say that it depends on the people, and other factors..but after age 35, for the woman to be 10 or 15 years older is okay.

Answer 1

5 years and above creates a generational gap.

Answer 2

I am in the opposite position to you!! I am a female in my mid 20s and have fallen for a guy in his mid 40s. Normally I've always been atracted to guys between 18-30 but with this man as soon as I saw him I felt a stong connection and we do get on. I am unsure how he feels about me though we have been out a few times as friends (just the two of us) but I think he is too scared to make a move as he doesn't want to seem a dirty old man, and I'm too scared as don't want to seem a dumb young dreamer. I don't know how he feels about me and not knowing is driving me crazy (and to make things worse we both moved away from the place we met several miles north and south and now only have brieft phone contact). But I think it is worth noting that as much as people would think the older guy might worry that a younger lady would never be interested, a younger lady can also worry the older guy might not take her seriouly. PS Thought I might add here, that a lot of guys will say to me 'hell yeah a older man would go out with you he'd be a fool not to!!' but I don't want to be a trophy girlfriend, I care about this man deeply and feel akind to him and don't want to be messed about. This is the closest to love I have ever felt and I have had a long term relationship before plus other boyfriends and never have I been blow away by someone as with this guy. PPS I am over 25 too so I'm not a child anymore... I do know life!! But I still feel less mature than this very wise deep thinking older man. I don't want him to think me a fool.

Answer 3

i dont think age really has a bearing. its all the personality. some click some dont. an if it was age i would say there has to be atleast 10 yrs difference. same generation or close i wouldnt consider old woman young man. baby boomer and gen xer, yeah i would say. but then again isnt love blind as so is justice ( hence why criminials are set free while innocents are lock'd away).big and small date, old and young date, does it matter? isnt it about the two people not a number or a wieght, or a color.

Answer 4

Yes i would say it is ok...when you look at an older man with a younger woman usually the 1st thing people think is."she must be after his money" or something like that...but then its looked at as ok, when a older man goes for a younger woman people dont have much to say, i know what you mean, but sometimes it could be the connection you have with someone of a younger or older mentality. Like when you see an older woman with a younger man, the eyebrows are raised, as if to say "whats she doing with him, he looks like her son"..or something like that. I think it should be equal for younger men to admire an older woman, just the same as it is for an older man to admire a younger woman..it should be looked at the same, no questions asked!!

Answer 5

It is a personal choice but in general, if there is a 15 year age gap, be it the man or woman, it is a relationship with an "older" person, at least physicially.

With that much of an age gap, there begins noticeable generational gap and your frame of references for different things will be very noticeable, such as movies you have seen, music you enjoy, life and job experiences you have had, etc.

Answer 6

Actually, I do not believe in age gaps. An 18 year old male could make love with a 55 year old female; as long as they both desire it.

When I was 15, I loved a woman who was 50; despite the fact that her 2 children were much older than me. She liked me too. Till now (though she's pretty old), I find her very dear to me.

Answer 7

I really don't know, I think as lomg as both parties are on the same page mentally and mature wise, then its no big deal, My Fiance is 6 yrs older than me, but we have the chemistry and maturity.

Answer 8

its always the quastion of kids
once you 26 marry a 43 old lady and you dream to have 2 kids
some times that stays as a dream

Answer 9

It's always "okay" as long as both are legal adults.

But I'd say anything past 7 years qualifies as an "older woman."

Answer 10

I don't ever think that the woman should be older than the man. But I think if the woman is like 33 and the dude is 23 that's a big deal or the woman being 45 and the dude is in his twenties BIG DEAL! But my friend is older than her boyfriend but only by 2 years so that's kinda okay.