Can any love expert help me?

Question

Monday was the first day of Highschool. The school was filled with chix but i only wanted this one girl, I had a crush on her since Monday. I always stare at her and she seems to notice it. Theres this friend of mine whos been her classmate last year, so i keeped on asking things about her to him. He replied my question. But today, she knew I had a crush on her, her friend told me she knew. Seems whole of the class knew it. I made up a lie and told her friend "She looks exactly like my girlfriend so i feel that way. Her friend says "Oh okay, I'll tell her so she doesnt feel EWW,ARGGH,EWW anymore". I felt like my heart collapse when she said that..NOW WHAT SHOULD I DO? I STILL WANT HER.

Answer 1

OK, here are some hints that will save you a mountain of grief in high school (and for the rest of your life):

1) Never confess your feelings to anyone, because it will show up in gossip.
2) When approaching a girl, never tell her how you feel. It is one of the surest ways to make sure she will not like you. It's much better to ask for a date, and even better to try to get their phone number and make the date days later during a short phone conversation.

2.5) In high school, I know most people "go out" by directly asking people they like to be their bf/gf. But that is not a good approach in real life. Very few people know if they want to be that close without even knowing you. You need to go out on DATES with women. Now, given that you're in high school, you probably don't have the resources to do that. That is yet another reason that you should not be dating in high school. When confronted with a woman who wants you to be bf/gf right from the start, and you're in high school, you should probably go along with it if you like her. But outside of high school, I think the best approach would be to force things to go more slowly.

3) Very few girls will have the nerve to tell you "no" right upfront. Some signs you need to look out for are lines like "I see you as a friend/brother", "I have a boyfriend", or talk of another guy she likes. Also, beware of lines like "Let me get back to you." If they like you, they will tell you "Yes!" or "I'd love to go, but . How about ?" If they have to think about whether they want to go out with you, etc., forget about them because they don't like you enough.

4) The key to attraction is all about what the girl thinks of you, not what you think of her. Because the fact is, no matter how much you love her, she only cares about what SHE thinks of you. If she doesn't like you enough at the beginning, she will not change her mind in any reasonable way.

5) When you get rejected, learn to take it gracefully. Politely excuse yourself, walk away, and never ask the girl out again (unless she mentions that she didn't want to go out because of a boyfriend, and she later breaks up).

6) Never waste your time focusing on only one girl, until you find one you like and who likes you back.

7) Don't spend much time on the telephone, because it is all too easy to miss important body language or to say things you have no business saying (things which will make the woman lose respect for you). Insist on saving it all for the date, unless she's having a really hard time.

8) Average guys who know what they're doing have like a 10% success rate with random women. So don't get depressed if you get rejected this time, or even several times.

9) Have the attitude "I like myself no matter what anyone else thinks." You will need it if you're going to try to date, because of the failure involved. Also, try to cultivate a good sense of humor.
10) Don't be afraid to break up with a girl who is not good for you. If you notice severe personality flaws, take the initiative and break up with her.

11) The phone is, with few exceptions, only for making appointments.

12) Long-distance relationships, on the whole, are massive wastes of time.

13) When they like you, they help you out. Your interaction will go a lot more smoothly when the girl likes you because they actually want you to approach them, and do the right things with them. They usually won't ask you out on their own even if they like you, but they will give you some encouraging signs and even suggestions.

14) Women (and men, I suppose) are generally crazy until about the age of 22. Just keep that in mind, because you will see lots of unwise love practices by younger people. You might even see lots of these recommendations violated. But you will know the risks well enough to avoid copying off of other people who are destined for failure.

I think you should go and chit-chat with the girl, or at least try to. If she responds well, get her number, and ask her out several days later. If she refuses, well, forget about her and move on. I'd say that your chances here are about 1%. Personally I would not go after this girl anymore, because the odds are too great against you. Just walk on by and be polite, smile, and don't say a damned thing. Eventually people should start thinking "Hey, I thought someone said he likes her. It sure doesn't look like it. What a bunch of liars!" And DO NOT EVER confess your feelings to your friends, etc. I can't stress that enough. I caused myself a whole lot of problems by letting people know how I felt. People instantly lose respect for you, and it always gets back to the girl you like, who will respect you even less. Even when people try to hook you up, you need to keep your cool at all times. Show some interest, but indicate that you don't really know the other person and you need to know them before you can really tell if you like them. Good luck!

Answer 2

it's been a long time since i was in high school, but don't they say that girls mature faster than boys? her 'EWW,ARGGH,EWW's' does not sound exactly like a mature girl. being liked by someone should be flattering.

if you've only had a crush on her since monday, i'm sure it's just because she's cute and not because she has a lovely personality. she sounds too high up on herself.

attractive people aren't always attractive when you get to know them. close your eyes and DON'T think about how she looks

now, knowing what you know about her right now, is she still attractive?

many fish in the sea. being a freshman boy is hard, but wait until you're a sophomore, junior or senior! plenty of fish coming from other junior highs!

good luck!

Answer 3

Hello u r in H.S start acting like a man and step up 2 her and tell her how u feel. Y r u beating around the bush r u waiting 4 it 2 b 2 late. If she doesn't like u then move on there r a lot of girls in high school. Stop being a chicken and b a man. Good luck

Answer 4

Well do you really have a girlfriend. If not write a letter to her and tell her why you lied (probably because you were afraind of rejection) tell her how you really feel and that you still like her. uy her lone yellow rose ( real if you can but if you can't a fake one will do) tape the rose to her locker and put the note inside of her locker. Hope that this advice helps.

Answer 5

I am not a love expert, but having experienced love pangs myself I will try my best to answer your question. My answer is, stop playing guessing games and this going back and forth with messages from her friends to her. Stop this, you are in high school now, so time to grow up.Hopefully she is not already turned off by your childish behaviour. Just engage in a conversation with her, plain and simple. If she is interested in you then she will be willing to talk to you and hopefully this will start you two on a path to bigger and greater things. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

Maybe you should decide first if you really want her or some icecream or to play ball or to watch a movie.Stop being such a drama queen,get a life and try to use the top head.How is that for a change?

Answer 7

Don't stare at her anymore. Find someone else, and make this one sorry she never said yes. Good luck and don't take things too seriously like that, high school is full of heart aches and false hopes, you will get over it all one day!

Answer 8

I think you should have been upfront with your feelings with her not her friend. Then you wouldn't have to wonder her feelings for you. Now if I were you I would not show so much interest in her now that she knows. See if she how act towards you, if it seems like she is interested in you take it slow and get to know her for yourself. You have a whole semester.

Answer 9

Sorry her friend was so rude.

Keep on being yourself, being a nice person, being honest.

On Valentine's day, send her a single rose, anonymously. Girl's love romantic gestures.

You might have to just watch this one from afar though, and wait for a perfect love match to come your way.

Answer 10

Well you screw up. Just go talk to her and tell her you felt silly at the time cuz maybe you felt you would not like you and so you said that you looked like my gf was not true.

Or say, "Hi, I think I screwed up. If you heard a story that you looked like my gf was not true. What I said was that you looked like a girl that I would want to be my gf." The rest to say is up to you.

Answer 11

i know what it's like to want someone you can't have....

first of all, if she doesn't like you back, there's nothing you can do. Just move on and find someone better than her...lol

all school year i liked someone, and i told them. and we even talked about going out and everything...but just a week ago they said it was just a crush and they rather just be friends. My heart broke, i hated but. but i moved on