URGENT - Situations!! For Both MEN and Women?

Question

Ok has anyone ever been through this situation, on either side. I was seeing this guy for around 7 months. Everything was great I mean everything, we gelled from the start. But he as a typical guy was really indecisive about having a serious relationship at the particular time. Everytime I intended on moving on he always came back. But I decided to REALLY do it, MOVE ON. It was just such a shame as we were like best friends aswell as lovers, not only said by me but him aswell. Now I have moved on months down the line he wants me back, to have something serious!

Have any of you guys ever been in this situation/dilemma. On both parts. Have any guy's here realised that they did want that person after, and were they gone or moved one, and have any girlys had this happen to them?

It's good to hear both side of a story!

Answer 1

The ship has saile dlove. even if you do go back you'll always wonder if he'll end it.
too little too late it sounds to me.

Answer 2

I am actually in the moving on stage of your situation. I have said I was leaving many many times but never really got strong enough to do it. I finally on Monday ended it for good. If he came back to me months later and said he wanted something I would question why now and not then?? If the answer was good and seemed real then I would consider starting things slow. I mean I have such strong feelings for this guy I wouldn't be able to just ignore him wanting something with me. So I would test the waters and see what his real intentions are. You don't want to end up being the hurt again having to be the one to walk away. Be careful!

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I would definitely sit him down and have a "commitment" talk with him. Everybody has there own time frame on how fast things should progress in a relationship. You both need to find that happy middle ground. If you can't work that part out, you will both be frustrated and unhappy. I am of the oppinion that there is something outside of your relationship he wants to accomplish before he feels like he can settle down. Find out what that is and if you can help him meet his goals to get to that point. It's all about communication.
There are great, wonderful people out there, but they may not be the one for you.
I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Yes my husband did this to me all the time when we first met. He finally realized he wanted to be with me and stop playing games. Do you know how many times Ive said thats it im done playing this game? But wham there he is and you know deep down that you love this person so you forget what they keep doing.
Men are very different when it comes to emotions. They dont realize what they are doing- they dont mean any harm- they are just confused themselves. You need to talk to him about it and stop putting up with him doing that- because if he really wants you he will see what he is doing and put an end to it- but not until you tell him and mean it.

The way I see it is if they keep coming back then obviously there is a connection there. I have lived it and have a husband I love and a beautiful child now.

Answer 5

When I was 17 I liked this co-worker who was 20. She would lead me on and then back off saying I was too young. I finally had enough of her tearing at my heart strings and moved on. I started dating someone else but remained friends with her. I got engaged to the person I was seeing and my co-worker begged me to leave my fiance and marry her instead. She told me how wrong she was for letting me get away. It was too late. I married my fiance instead.(we were divorced within a year and I sometimes wonder if I should have married my coworker. I guess I'll never know how it would have ended up)

Answer 6

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Answer 7

i've got no anecdotes for you, but regarding your situation, it really depends on the two of you. Are you now in a relationship with someone else? How is that going? Are you willing to break that off to get back with this first guy? If you don't have anything else going, and you know that you and this guy are so fabulous together, I think you'd be crazy not to give it another go.

Answer 8

Yes, I have had that happen to me. My ex hubby always cheated and I always kicked him out and then took him back. Until the last time, and I didn't take him back. Now, I'm remarried. Shortly after I got married, my ex told me he loved me, and I told him it was too late. Best thing I ever did. B/c chances are it's just a hindsight 20/20 thing and once he gets what he missed he'll change his mind again.

Answer 9

been there done that... a few times. one of them i just lost complete contact with. the other i told i can be his friend but i can't be with him because it's not gonna work anymore cuz i've moved on and i have a new bf. and the most recent one was the the most man of all of them. he went up to my new bf when i was in the room but i wasn't paying attention... my bf told me about it later. and he said "adam, see that smile on natasha?" adam say he did then the other guy was like "keep it there, she's happy and amazing keep her happy, she deserves it" after that i gained alot of respect for my ex. i know it wouldn't work out because of many factors but i do wish him the best because he's a real guy. you just have to realize what you want and go for that. you can't be brought down by an ex wanting you back. they are ex's for a reason. good luck :)

Answer 10

Yes! It's like they say "you never know what you have till it's gone".

This may be the case, or he could just be "selfish." Some people, men & women, hate to see someone they've been with, with someone else. Even though they have can see no long term future with them.

Answer 11

It could be that he's had to time learn more about himself and what your relationship meant to him. I agree with a post above. Try dating/no sex for a bit and see where things are going.