This man I've been through HELL with i dated him 4 7mths. I havn't seen him in 1 1/2 mth. we both don't got wheels I don't have the money to see him right now, only thing i got left is my house,When we talk he reminds me that he's moving in with me, I do want him to, Next month so he says, I don't believe hardly nothing he says,Everytime we talk i give him hint after hint, for him to stay were he at and move on in a nice way. We've been aguing and Im ready 4 him 2 b a man and tell me that we are done i can't tell him cuz i'd b lyin to myself and him. I love him sooo much. U c if you don't love sombody y even waist time.I wish he would say goodbye, trust me i've tried to say goodbye, when we argue,Im just dyin 4 him to say Its over. At 1 point i thought we broke up, and I was on the verge of dating somone and he found out, he still didn't dump me he just told me to follow my heart and b wityh the 1 i love, i love him but why can't he set me FREE.
2007-01-24 02:29:26 · 17 answers · asked by jennifer w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u need to set yourself free before the rltp gets any deeper. in the beginning of the rltp things are ussually great not hell. this could be a warning sign.
2007-01-24 02:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are leaving all the power for you to be free in his hands. Only YOU can set yourself free. Continue to play these denial games with your mind and you will get what you ask for, more heartache. If you are fooling yourself into thinking the reason he does not set you free is because he loves you, then wake up. Why should he, he most likely does not care either way. Bottom line, if you do not care enough for yourself, then why should he or anyone else for that matter. Not wishing to be cruel, just wanting to help you see the light for your own good. Best to you!
2007-01-24 10:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the deal...Most men think on a different level then women, but there are those rare occasions when you find one that is so like you that you both tend to argue a lot. From what you wrote it sounds as if you are unsure of this relationship. What you need to do is....brace for it.... Be Honest With Him!! If he will not listen or it starts an arguement, then end the conversation with "If you are not willing to hear my feelings then I am hanging up the phone (or leaving if you are with him)." If he truely cares about you he will call back. But above all be honest about how you feel about your situation.
2007-01-24 10:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jonathan O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have to set yourself free. You're not going to get a goodbye from this guy so give it up. He's basically screamed that it's over but you don't want to listen. Read the signs here. Move on with your life without the goodbye you're dying to hear from him. The next time he comes back when you're on the verge of moving on, MOVE ON. You're putting yourself back into this so take some responsiblity here. No one can put you through hell unless you willingly walk through it with them. Pull yourself together, get your life back on track and stop crying over a man who doesn't even have the deceny to break up with you.
2007-01-24 10:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what...I know it's hard, but be strong. Set YOURSELF free. Tell him that you love him, but he's hurting you too much, and it's over. Then leave! Find yourself a man who's deserving of the love you have burning up inside you! They're out there, lonely and looking for a great girl like you!
2007-01-24 10:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the problem? Him saying it is over or you? It seems to me that you want it to be over , so why not just end it. What are you waiting for? For you not to have a guilty conscious or hurting his feelings? A long long talk is needed between the both of you......hard as it seems, it has to be done. Then let go.
2007-01-24 10:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bette set you own self free and stop waiting on him unless you really want to be with him and that is why you still keep holding on. Let go girl let him go, move on...you may be blocking your blessings and you do not even know it.
2007-01-24 10:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the thing: He has told you, in his actions, or the lack of actions, he wants YOU to say good bye so HE can be the victim...Say goodbye, find someone who is going to love you with all of his heart.
2007-01-24 10:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Emme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You make absolutely no sense!
You love this guy, but you want him to break up with you. Talk about a messed up relationship. Just end it...it will never go anywhere.
2007-01-24 10:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by Bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps the real hint you are giving him is that no matter how much he abuses and argues with you that you will always be there for him?
2007-01-24 10:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by tripppah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋