Do you believe people deserve second chances and that they change what was wrong before? Can you ever really just forgive and move on or will it always be in the back of your mind? How many sencond chances do you think really work out for the better?
2007-01-24 02:20:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
more details but i think you should always give someone a second chance. people mess up and make mistakes doesn't mean that they are mean individuals just means they need your helping hand. good luck with your situation.
2007-01-24 02:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by lover143 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, they don't deserve 2nd chances, but they will get them anyway---if not with one person, then the next. I don't think most can change. Most people can NOT forgive and move on...it will always be in the back of the mind. I think 2nd chances rarely...VERY rarely work out for the better. I would say never, but absolutes bother me. People can let it go for 2-3 maybe more years...but eventually it rears it's ugly head.
I know that I'll get lots of thumbs down...especially from those who are on their 2nd, 3rd, 4th whatever chances and those that keep enabling them. I understand that they want to be the ones that prove the rules wrong (or just want to keep getting away with stuff and being "forgiven".) Truth isn't the prettiest thing.
2007-01-24 10:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the person did. I don't know if I could get over someone cheating on me. I do believe in second chances. We learn as we go a long. Life is complicated and we are just going through life doing the best we can w/ the info we have at the time. It would be nice if we came out of our mothers knowing who we are and how to deal with things but we don't. We are forever growing and changing within ourselves. Just look in your heart and think about if it's something you can get past. You know yourself better then anyone one else and in the end that's the only person you really have to live with.
2007-01-24 10:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on you, and on him/her. Can you completely forgive this person? If you can, if you can give up your anger and resentment over the past, then, yes, it can work because people can realize their mistakes and not repeat them.
But if you can't completely forgive, if you're bound to do things to get back at them for the past, if you're liable to bring it up during an argument, if you think you might justify hurting them because it's only fair since they've done it to you, don't bother. Just drop it and move on to someone else who has a clean slate.
I personally have grappled with a similar situation. I believe she has changed and she will not make the same mistakes again. But I can't get back with her because I don't think I will be able to trust her enough to have a healthy relationship.
So, in a way it's up to both of you...
2007-01-24 10:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of second chances working out...but then I have also heard of many that don't. It depends on the situation. How long have you two been separated? How old are you? What was the reason for the break up before? Is there evidence to the change that was needed? Are you both willing to compromise to that change? Are you willing to let the past issue go? Is the other person willing to do the same?
2007-01-24 10:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have gave my ex numerous chances.
The last chance I gave him - I couldnt get over what he did before and it tore us apart.
Plus he wanted to be friends with that ex, so no more chances from me.
He has a lot of proving and respect and trust to earn from me.
It wont come easy, and it may not come at all.
But yeah I believe people deserve 2nd chances, just dont be a doormat.
If you let them do it once, they WILL do it again cause they know you will take them back.
I also think if you try and put everything you have into it, then you can say hey I tried, and did my part, this is not my fault.
2007-01-24 10:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mia l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgive and Forget. But still talk to the person, find out if they really deserve a 2nd chance or if they just want to see how many times you will forgive them.
2007-01-24 10:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by CountryGirlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone must be given a second chance. When I give someone a second chance it will always be at the back of my head for a whil then it will fade and be like anything in my past.
When I am given a second chance I am obliged to correct my ways cos I realise it took that person a lot of thought to forgive me.
2007-01-24 10:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone makes mistakes from time to time. It is easier to forgive then forget. If the person is sincere about what he/she did wrong then maybe it will not happen again. If they repeat the same thing over and over then they do not think what they are doing is wrong and they won't change.
2007-01-24 10:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in giving one second chance. Is not a third or a fourth chance. You forgive and forget once with a warning, after that, be strong and say 'no more'
2007-01-24 10:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by glim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, they do not necessarily deserve a second chance but, if
you can truly see a change in him or her go ahead but, keep you eyes open and keep track of everything that is said or done.
After a while if they have changed it will show.
2007-01-24 10:37:59 · answer #11 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋