If you were me, what would you do?

Question

It has been a few months since I told her my feeling (which she said just want to be friends). Indeed, I love her and I can't visualise my life without her! My emotions toward this matter is just like a tide - sometimes I feel I should still slowly grab her heart while sometimes I am afraid that she might have someone else in her heart and hence I should forget her. Moreover, I am pretty shy in front of her and she also does not talk that much.. But, it really hurts me when I recall that day she 'rejected' me and when I visualise her choosing someone who does not deserve her.. If you were me, what would you do and why?

* You are 14 years old and so far you have been very nice to her and recently you have made a birthday card for her; and since then you have noticed that her behavior changes - she teased you more often. After all you have done for her, will you give up and forget her or strive to win her without being stalking?

Should I one day, maybe one year later, ask her again

Answer 1

Here is your dilema.

What did she do to earn your undeing love?

If you want to win her over if you want her to be attracted to you then you have to love yourself as much as you may think you love her.

If I were a girl and some dude is all in love with me when I did nothing to earn that love then I automatically would feel that he is a little wierd and creeepy. Women intuitively know when a man into her because he has low self esteem and desperate.

So cut the c r a p and focus on sports, education, arts, music, language etc. whatever but focus on becoming a SOMEBODY before you run off proffesing your love for ANYBODY... gees.

Answer 2

When I was in highschool I chased the same girl for 3 years of my life, love poems, flowers, cards, presents, just completely gave myself into the chase of this girl.

18 years later I never did date her, or get a kiss, but I did get a good friend.

In those 3 years though I missed several other girls who wanted to date me but I was too blind to see it.

Do I have regrets for focusing so much? Yeah a little bit but I can't the past... but have the opportunity.

While I know it seems that everything is focused on her, I woudl distance myself from her, she knows how you feel, stop chasing her and check out other interests, if she likes you at all once your not following her like a puppy she'll realize it (the whole you never know until its gone approach)

Answer 3

dude, move on.
most chicks think the 'hopeless romantic' thing is cool and all, but there is a thin line between that and being creepy.
unfortunately i think that she just aint into you like that.
don't worry there are so many girls that could be into you if you open your world up and stop obsessing on only one.
you're 14 you are gonna fail at love a couple of times before you get it right.
good luck

Answer 4

Hon, you already asked this question. Asking it repeatedly isn't going to change the answers or get the one you want. It's time to move on. If the chance presents itself one day in the future, great but, in the meantime, move on. You're 14, you'll meet other girls.

Answer 5

Let me say that this site does not limit the number of times you can ask a question. You should ask as many times as you need to.

As far as your question, give her some space.

Good Luck.

Answer 6

Let her be. If she's not into you, no amount of persuasion will change it. You have your whole life ahead of you and will and should meet many more girls. If someone doesn't see how sweet you're being to her, then she doesn't deserve you.

Answer 7

move on...if she also likes you she shouldn't have rejected u in the first place. but if you're the martyr type like me, do everything you can and if it still doesn't work, well, she doesn't deserve you.

Answer 8

Ask her again.