i live in the state on mississippi and i have a 3 year old who doesnt know his ral father simply because he doesnt want anything to do with him and it has been 2 and half years since he has seen him talked to him or anything of contact. i am curious my husband wants to adopt him (he calls him daddy) and we want to know the process like how long it has to be and what all we have to do ive contacted my lawyer 2 weeks ago but he is yet to call me back..
2007-01-24 02:08:10 · 8 answers · asked by hb2008 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he doesnt pay child support and never has
2007-01-24 02:20:51 · update #1
I adopted my daughter, (my wife went through the same thing). Her real father was contacted but because he could not give any good reason to contest the adoption - he hadn't seen her in 2 years - I was granted the adoption then and there in court. By law we had to inform our daughter that I was not her real Daddy but anyone can be a Dad, it takes someone special to be a Daddy!
2007-01-24 10:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by mark s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, a 3 year old who has not seen/talked to his real father in 2 and a half years has no idea whether he wants anything to do with his birth father or not. His birth father would be nothing more to him than a total stranger.
Re: your husband adopting your son. That would have to go through the courts and I believe the very first step would be getting the birth father to relinquish his parental rights. Call your lawyer again. Lawyers do get extremely busy and this may be something that has fallen through the cracks at his office - it happens everywhere. Definitely give this a follow-up call to your lawyer's office.
Good luck! I think it is wonderful that your husband wants to adopt your son as his own. He is the man that your son knows as a daddy anyway.
2007-01-24 02:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does Dad pay child support? In many states (although I don’t actually know if MS is one of them) the payment of child support is considered ‘contact’ even if the parent doesn’t physically see the child.
However, most times, if a biological parent has no desire to have a relationship with a child (and if he hasn’t seen the child in over 2 years…) then they won’t contest an adoption, because once the child is adopted the biological parent is no longer responsible for paying child support (although they do still owe any back support that is due unless the parent agrees to forgive it).
2007-01-24 02:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend going through the same thing although in a different state. Go into your lawyers office. If he is unavailable when you get there set up an appointment to meet with him. Lawyers are very hard to get a hold of and even harder to get a response out of. Be persistant. If your lawyer still doesn't respond get a new one. Good Luck!
2007-01-24 02:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by Crys L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not from the US but my ex husbands ex g/f had a daughter to him, and he took off once he found out that she was pregnant he only saw her once out of 5 years, (daughter is 24 now) and wants nothing to do with him, he did not pursue her or even see a solicitor for visitation rights, he just left his ex to bring up the child on her own...anyway, she was getting married and asked my ex if her new husband could adopt his daughter, he said no at first, but she protested this and took it to court on the grounds of desertion... his mother made him see sense eventually and he agreed, that little girl did not know him from Adam, this took about a year to settle it, congratulations to your husband for being so kind as to adopt your child...it seems that he is the real dad in this case, but i think you may have to contact your ex first, i am not sure how this works in USA but this is how it worked here in UK.... go see a good lawyer and get it done, good luck
2007-01-24 02:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all find a new lawyer!! Second every state is different. But for me and my husband it took exactly 4 months from start to finish. You will really need to talk with your lawyer though.
Best of luck and if you have any questions feel free to e~mail me.
2007-01-24 02:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well first your laywer will have to try and contact the father and then you will have to go in front of a judge in mississippi they will run a ad in the paper for abandonment and if he dosent reply in 30 days they will not need his signature on the adoption papers
2007-01-24 02:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by BlessedMommyof3.. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the adoption should be pretty much of a formality since the real father doesn't want anything to do with him but I would call a different attorney if yours hasn't called you back after this period of time.
2007-01-24 02:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋