I am a 30 year old male virgin and only 5'5" tall. How do I get a girl?

Question

It is practically impossible for me to get a girl because of my height 5'5". I am really good looking but I have never even had a girl interested in me and I am over 30 years old. Ironically over the years quite many gay men have shown intrest in me and many of them have even asked up-front if I would like to have sex with them. But I am not gay at all so that is not an option. What should I do?

Answer 1

Look at a different place...

You probably are looking for her in the wrong places.

Answer 2

Ok, this makes no sense...you can not blame your issues on your height...I mean, yea 5'5" is a little short...but there is no way that i why you have spent atleast the last 15 years without any girls diggin on you. Have you ever watched Jerry Springer or Mauri....there is someone for everyone out there...maybe you are aiming your standards a little too high, or perhaps since you are as confident as you are being not just good looking but "really good looking" you need to get off your high horse and stop being into yourself and maybe take and interest in someone else. Why sit there feeling sorry for yourself waiting for a girl to take interest in you, when you should be manning up and getting some balls and throw some game toward some chick. 30 years of unwanted virginity...I think it is time you stop being best friends with your right hand, and open your eyes to the world of "dating" or atleast prostitution if you are a complete whack job!

Answer 3

First and foremost... your height isn't why you're not getting girls.

I ~know~ a couple of guys in the 5'4" - 5'6" range who have no problems attracting women. If I'm not mistaken, Tom Cruise himself is only 2 inches taller, at 5'7"... and I don't think I need to defend his ability to get women either.

The thing that's holding you back is lack of confidence. You're worried about your height, and it's holding you back.

My best suggestion is a book that I think you should acquire and read. It's called "The Game" and it was written by Neil Strauss.

It's basically the true story of how a short, nerdy writer for the New York Times acquired the training and made the necessary changes in himself to become, probably, the best Pickup Artist in the World.

Prior to his education/change, he had only been on one date in his life and had never had sex. At the time he was finishing the book, he was starting a serious relationship with Lisa Leveridge (the guitarist for The Chelsea). The book will help you in a lot of ways. The bottom line is that you're defeating yourself with your attitude before you ever say hello to a woman.

Answer 4

When you bring this up, some people are going to say things and lie to you to try and comfort you and make you feel better. Realistically, you are a pretty short guy. I am 5'7" and am very short, you will look like a midget compared to a tall guy. Most girls, especially American girls, have a preference for tall guys. Even the very short girls usually prefer a guy MUCH taller than them at around 5'9" to 6 foot something.

What exactly IS "short"? Well on paper, its anything below average. The average height of an American male is between 5 foot 9 and 5 foot 10 inches. You are well below this, and you are very short compared to the average. But like I said, compared to a tall guy(which girls have the preference for), you are TINY. Realistically, if you had a big penis, your height issue would be pretty much neutralized in a womans eyes. I'm guessing that you don't have a big wang based on how low your self-confidence is. Well if you are very short, skinny, with a smaller or average sized penis, you will definetly continue to have problems attracted a female. Some people say that "size doesnt matter", when in fact, it is one of the most fundamental things that may matter to a female.

Basicaly what I'm doing is providing you with the truth, my friend. Your height is DEFINETLY one of the key components as to why American women do not go out of their way to hit on you. And if you think women don't hit on guys that they think are really hot, your lying to yourself. Because if a girl is attracted to a guy, and she is confident, she will give him some small hints that she is attracted to him. You've said that this doesnt happen to you, and your even intelligent enough to understand that your height is a key component. I know that its frustrating when your like "I'm short, women arent attracted to me", and people lie to you only to comfort you. So hopefully you can appreciate the fact that I've given you the truth in a logical way.

To back up what I say, thats all you have to do is look at the American male average height studies, as well as surveys and studies done regarding the female preference.

Now you can sit there all day and create fantasies in your mind that will help you cope with your lack of height, and they can help. Or you can try to live a fullfilling and satisfying life in other ways rather than having sex with slu**. Your life has not been pre-determined like a play, and "god" didnt necessarily make you a small man for whatever reason you can think of. There are many different things that could have been responsible for your small stature. Human growth hormone deficiency during your adolescense could be one of these reasons. You could have had a genetic pre-disposition to being very short. Your environment can play a role; maybe you were abused or neglected as a young kid. There are many possible reasons as to why your small, but its probably a combination of many things. One thing you need to understand is that your lack of height and size was not necessarily pre-determined by god, for a reason.

In the end, there is still hope. As far as finding a girl goes. You will have much better luck outside of America, possibly in a region where human beings are smaller. A smaller girl doesnt necessarily mean that she will be any less hot. You can do this, or you can satisfy yourself in other ways. Champions come in all sizes, and just because you are a small man doesnt necessarily mean that you need to continue suffering. Arnold Swartzeneggar, multiple time bodybuilder and action film star, claims that his experiences with bodybuilding were better than an orgasm. Tupac Shakur claims that being on stage acting at the Apollo was better than anything he'd ever experienced in his life, including sex. Bruce Lee, a great man standing only 2 inches taller than yourself, claims that the honest expression of the human body is one of the most fundamental things to the well-being of a person. You don't necessarily need to pull a Napolean and try to become this larger than life character because your a small guy. But its time to accept the fact that the average American women will not be attracted to you, and you need to work on developing whatever component it is, that makes you a champion.

Answer 5

Maybe you are looking for short girls (like 5'2") and that's a mistake. Short girls don't want to be with short guys because that would look pathetic and they feel they can't even wear high heels. Go for girls who are little taller than you. Don't be so conscious about your height. Just be a very nice guy who cares.

Answer 6

dude your not that short...but mean i always compare my hight to family im 5'3" and im 14 lol anyway just listen if your good looking your not that short it must be your personality. but don't change your personality just for somebody just be yourself i know im only 14 but don't change your personality for somebody it will always end in heart break. think about it..... you meat this wonderful, beautiful, smart, nice girl and your not acting like yourself and after say a month or two yous start to think about getting married what are you going to do. keep you fake personality for the rest of your life...
and its nothing to be ashamed of being a virgin at 30..nothing at all.

Answer 7

I've met some short guys who get girls--even tall ones. (In fact, if I had to rate the biggest man-whores I know, two of them are 5'6"!) Keep trying. If you need help, put 'seduction' into your browser and see what the pros tell you to do. And read Castle's post twice. You probably need to make some changes to get rid of less attractive personality traits and highlight attractive ones.

Answer 8

You have to get over feeling inferior, and look for shorter girls. There are plenty of them out there.

There was a post on here not long ago, by a taller girl, who was so in love a with fellow a lot shorter. She was determined to marry him, and everyone wished her well, unanymously.

Answer 9

well if the only reason women arent attracted to you is because you are short then you cant really so anything about it. i mean you are just born with that. maybe you just need to start looking for short woman. i mean either that or just start making yourself taller somehow. wear taller shoes or something. there isnt really anything you can do for this problem. but maybe you will think of something. good luck with your problem!!

Answer 10

dude that doesnt make sense. 5'5 is like an average girl height. so why would they care? you must not be good looking. are you annoying? can you hold a conversation? its gotta be something else. come on.

Answer 11

you're not really that short actually, maybe you're too picky? go out to night clubs, the mall and any other place that has females. Don't be afraid to ask them out and if they say no just keep asking others until you find the right woman for yourself.