Please Help!!!?

Question

My B-F wants us to move in together this summer and plan our wedding for next spring.
I'm not sure about the move in thing before marrage want to do? BUT WE WILL BE SAVING ALOT MORE FOR A BETTER WEDDING.

Answer 1

YOu should DEfinantly live with someone before you get married! That is how you know whether or not you can be with eachother for the rest of your lives!

Answer 2

if you are having doubts about moving in...then why are you not having doubts about marring him. I don't believe in moving in together before marriage. You should think about what it really is that you are hesitant about. The wedding day will be over before you know it, all the preparation just seems waste of time at the end of the day, but the trust between the couple has to last a life time. Follow you instinct, that's always the best thing to do.

Answer 3

Moving in together will be a good test of your relationship and give you an idea if you really like living with this guy. You will save money since you will be paying rent and utilities for one place instead of two and you could save that money for life in general and have a modest wedding. Weddings only last a day, I could never figure out why people waste tons of savings on something that lasts one day and all that money is just gone.

Answer 4

Moving in together before marriage removes the fun, suprise, and excitment from the wedding day on. You already will know what each others habits are. Wheres the excitment in that. The first year of marriage is the most fun but can be difficult to get used to also. So what. Thats what makes it interesting. Wait till you move in. It is alot more fun that way

Answer 5

First off, I would like to say that if you are hesitant about this move in, it may be for good reason. That said, I'll move on. Since you two have been talking marriage and it will save money in the long run, here is what I did: The biggest fear I had of moving in with my boyfriend was that I would lose my 'place'. By that I mean, my pillows, my blanket, my books, my stuff where I wanted it to be. He, on the other hand, didn't think twice about it. So what we did was we got a 2 bedroom apartment. In one bedroom, we slept, kept most of my clothes (and all of his) and that was 'our' bedroom. In the other room was my bedroom. This is where I went to talk to my mom and friends on the phone, to read, to take a nap, to play with my cat....I had my books where I wanted them, my makeup and hair stuff on the dresser, etc. It was nice having my own place to retreat to. Usually, a two bedroom is'nt much more expensive than a one bedroom. Then, once you get married and you get to the point where you don't need your own little space anymore, it can converted into an office, a huge walk-in closet, or even a bedroom for the first baby! I hope this works for you and good luck with your marriage!

Answer 6

I went through the same thing> I always told my bf I would not move in with him til we got engaged. We just got engaged about a month ago. So I am living with him. It's better because we save more $ for the wedding (in my opinion). And it's not like we are just 'dating.' We're official. But I say do what you feel is right! Every person is different!

Answer 7

Don't move in together; it's much more special to wait until you are married, then you discover new things together. About the money, either scale down or do alternate arrangements for a wedding that fits your budget; don't use living together as an excuse.

Answer 8

Since you are saying he is your boy friend, I would wait until you actually get the engagement ring before moving in. I dont think I would live with a man without a ring and a commitment. Just saying you will be getting married isnt enough for me, I need the concrete proof that we would be.

However, I do very much agree with living together before marriage. You really do find out about a person when you live together and share a bathroom. And its alot easier to find out before you get the band on your finger if you really like this man or not. Once that wedding ring goes on you are in for a difficult time if you want to get out. Find out before hand if his "quirks" are going to be compatilble with yours.

Answer 9

Only you can make such a decision. I don't know how you were raise or how your family will react with your decision if you do move in with him, many parents expect their daughter to be 'pure' until the wedding day and only want their daughter to leave the house after marriage.
Its all up to you, if you do move in with him it will not only be a good way to save a lot of money but also to get to know him more- There are so many other sides of him you don't know if you haven't lived with a person.... Good Luck!

Answer 10

this all depends on your current status, is the relationship strong? how long have you been together? This would be a great test run for your life together. How do your parents feel about this move? I recommend living with someone before you marry them, because you really get to know that person, some will disagree, but that is my opinion. Hope you have a wonderful wedding

Answer 11

My husband and I moved in together five months before our wedding and we have never regretted it in fact I think its a good thing that way you know if you can handle living with him. And a better wedding isn't the big picture it is only one day but if your not comfortable with the idea then it isn't the right thing to do for you and he should understand that if he loves you.
Good luck with your decision.