There was only one break up and poof, the four year relationship just shattered into pieces. I don't even know what his reason was, and the bad thing is he didn't even gave it a second chance. I still love the guy so much and it's already one year and six months since the break up. we still have communication though, and we still hug each other. He knows i still love him but sometimes he emphasizes indirectly that we're only friends by now. I don;t know if i should move on or i should wait for him because maybe he still loves me and he still has to make up his mind. BUt ive been waiting for more than a year for him to make his move but all he does is say he misses me...what should i do...? Im confused. I don't know if im already hopeless or what.
2007-01-24 01:54:51 · 8 answers · asked by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not know how old you are, but I understand that 4 years of your life is alot to invest. It hurts alot, but you will eventually get over it. Do not let him hug you or it will continue to hurt you. Don't tell him you love him. Why do woman feel the need to always pour out our feelings. Respect yourself. If he can't make up his mind and he hasn't come back after a year and a half, he is not going to. You need to make your own life NOW and get the love YOU derserve. DON'T call him and don't go out if he calls you. Please take care of yourself.
2007-01-24 02:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to end the confusion.
It's been more than a year now, & you've given this enough time. It is possible for two people to still love each other & not ever be in a close relationship again. That is one amazing thing about people, we have an infinite capacity for love. You may think that you have given all of your love over to one person, & then suddenly another wonderful person comes along. Some people may think that in order to love that newer person, they have to take back some of the love that was given to the 1st one, but that doesn't have to be true.
If that were true then mothers would have to give up some of the love that they have for their 1st born child, so that they can still love the 2nd child, or the 3rd that comes along.
I think that instead of redistributing the love, that we instead expand the love with the demand.
So instead of trying to forget, & deny the love that you have for this guy, just put it aside for now, & accept that you can love another & still be a good person at the same time.
You won't be betraying him or the love that you have for him because it will be done in an honest way.
You guys still have a relationship as friends, so it isn't really over, it's just changed. It has evolved into what it is today, so accept that, & prepare yourself for a new relationship that will be more fullfilling for you.
So stop waiting for him, OK?
2007-01-24 10:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time to move on, as hard as it seems. Maybe its best if you stop talking to him for a while, and start seeing other people to get your mind off of him. Its been such a long time since the break up that if you moved on, I'm sure it would be the best. Good Luck and stay strong, I know its not easy.
2007-01-24 10:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a similar situation, a nearly 4 year relationship that ended 1 year and 7 months ago, move on. If you wait for him, you could end up waiting a long, long time.
2007-01-24 10:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by sleepymcgee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one....You need to get some distance between the two of you for awhile. I was in a similar situation and I couldn't get past it when I was still seeing the guy all the time. It was hard at first but as time passed it was easier to not be around him. I found myself no longer needing to see him and eventually I stopped wanting him back....
Good Luck!
2007-01-24 10:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Nichole D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,firstly,I want you to know that this life is full of up and down.Whenever you found yourself just believe that,that is how God want it to be.Well i will advice you to move on with your life.And try to have this at the back of your mind that everything happen for a reason.Just move on with your life and pretend like you don,t love him and see how he,s going to respond but i bet you if he trully love you,he will come back for you.
Good luck
2007-01-24 10:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Francis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You can't put your life on hold, hoping that things will change. When you break-up, the relationship is broken.
2007-01-24 10:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiddo... it's hopeless. If you really want to know what you did wrong then I will tell you, just say yes Willie.
2007-01-24 10:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Willie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋