hi, i am 24 and my boyfriend is 19.
i have been in a relationship with him for 9 months and i am hopelessly in love with him. Currently, we live 40 mins away from each other. I will be recieving my masters in may and he dropped out of college and is now in a performing arts school. I am sure he loves me and when we are together we have some of the most breathtaking experiences. It has been rough since I had to make some sacrifices and he has too. However, his goal is to be a part of a dance company and he will be traveling alot so I wont see him alot. I will be able to come with him sometimes but not all the time. This bothers me because I am the type of person that wants to be with my boyfriend almost like every 3 days. I have tried repeatedly to break up with him but I just cant. But this relationship hurts me so bad when we are apart, and the feeling of knowing that we will be apart more often really makes me hurt. I need to do something please response with advice.
2007-01-24 01:45:50 · 15 answers · asked by ye.... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You already know what you need to do. Even though you are in love, your needs don't match what he's willing to give. My advice is to be friends and date other people for awhile.
2007-01-24 01:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by crispy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years, and for about 1 and 1/2 of those years, I was finishing college, while he was already graduated. We lived over an hour away from each other, and some weekends, I had to work, so there were times when we'd go 2-3 weeks without seeing each other. To combat this, we talked on the phone every night, talked on the internet every chance we got, and drove to see each other whenever we had the chance. Now, I'm graduated, and instead of moving out to California where I'd have a much better chance at finding a job, I decided to move up to his place and take my chances in Chicago (which isn't too bad, just not as good as California).
I guess my advice would be if you really love him, you'll be willing to make the sacrifices needed and if he really loves you, he'll be willing to sacrifice as well. That way you can find a middle ground. I know I love my boyfriend more than anything in life. I'd do anything to be with him, even if it meant taking a lower paying job doing something a bit different than I had hoped for- in the end he's worth it to me; but everyone has their own standards and limit to how much they are willing to give up. Best of luck to you both.
2007-01-24 01:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by xenomorph_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 24 & he is 19. Age shouldn't matter, but a 19 year old boy is not looking to settle down. If you were 35 & he was 30 it would be different. You need to stop with the smothering and get a life of your own. You can't be with someone 24 hours a day. Live for yourself, do things that you want to. If it was meant to be it will be but if it is not meant to be at least you will know who you are.
2007-01-24 01:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His plans could give a distance between him and you.It could make the relationship grow or frown..It depends on both sides,if both of you love each other both of you could sacrifice something for the name of love..You said you cannot bear the fact of being without him in a long time, so if you can have a job that could match his job then thats good for you!And vice versa, if he could give it up and just have a plain job without having travel and trips that could affect your relationship then he should give it up. At the end if one of you decides to sacrifice something the effect would be a really happiness for the both of you.So talk it over and weigh things. But love is good if he really loves you he should think you first rather his career,or his own dreams, just be balance also and observe yourself because we dont want to end up crying because things happened in the way we dont think at the beginning.Love is good and not selfish.Hope I helped you thats all.
2007-01-24 01:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find someone else closer to you and let him go, as painful as that may seem now. Yoiur life wil change as well when you finish college as his has, and you will find a new group of friends and acquaintances one of which may be there for a relationship where you are together every night
2007-01-24 01:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up with him and be with someone who is older than you and more mature than a 19 year old. You are going somewhere in your life and he isn't!! It may hurt at first but you will get over him!! Good luck!!
2007-01-24 01:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not support him in his goals? If you had career plans surely he would support you? Why break up when things get tricky if you love him like you say you do. Love is about sacrifice too sometimes.
2007-01-24 01:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes we have to make sacrifices for love. Think about it in the long term. What can you live with? Is it better for you to have him in your life even though it is not a constant or not have him in your life at all?
2007-01-24 01:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grow up your 24 yrs old with a masters and your acting like a 13 yr old
2007-01-24 01:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by wnruger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guy in dance company = not boyfriend material, if you catch my drift.
2007-01-24 01:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Skeezix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋