is something wrong with me?

Question

i am 30 years and for the past three years realationships is not going my way i have been in three relationships which turn out wrong ending the same way the first i stayed single for two years,it only lasted three months.second lasted five months didn't wait jump into number three right awayit only lasted five months. all two ended with another woman being pregnant third had woman pregnant all along. didn't stop i am in a relationship right now, fouir weeks now and he is staying out and sleeping on the couch is something wrong with me. if i complain he says i am stessing him out please help me

Answer 1

I am not saying you're dong anything wrong but relationships are not just things that go worng on their own. You have to work at it.
More importantly though, be more careful when choosing your guy. Don't just give yourself up for any guy who comes along. If you wait and look for the warning signs befroehand, you'll avoid hooking up with losers and you won't have to share your man with another woman (and a child)

Answer 2

What's the rush? So you're 30. What's wrong with being single at 30? If you're a great person and leading a great life. I don't think you need a man to make you feel complete.

I know that sometimes that feeling of loneliness creeps in. But desperation is never attractive. So maybe you should stop eyeing around for a new guy and start enjoying your life.

I believe that love comes around when you least expect it. So keep yourself busy! Don't wait around for something that you're not sure of. You're better than that! Do something productive!

Answer 3

Yes, I have heard that unless you manage to affect a change within yourself that you may be destined to repeat your relationship history over, & over again.

I have also found that I can't work on myself while I am working on a relationship at the same time.

I suggest that you take a big step back from the latest relationship so you can do a better job of working on the relationship that you have with yourself 1st.
It also may be better if you don't ask yourself "Is there something wrong with me?" but instead ask "Is there something wrong with the choices I make?"

If you feel you need a man in your life to validate you, & to feel good about your self, then ask yourself how good it makes you feel about you when your man insists on sleeping on the couch.
Do you really need that?

Answer 4

First, were do you find these guys? Second, maybe you should consider doing a little background check before you start "hooking up" with the men you choose.
There is nothing like having a good male friend for a while and then falling in love.

P.S. I think there are many great answers above mine. I hope they all give you a positive outlook on your situation.

Answer 5

no, i really dont think there is anything wrong with you. sometimes, we look for things in a person that isnt there and it ususally is the thing that we feel comfortable knowing. maybe you are too use to that kind of man. i have been single for 14 years. i have only had 4 dates, they were - out for a coke and then they never called me back. i use to think something was wrong with me. but then i realized there isnt anything wrong it is with the men. they all thought i would jump in bed with them that night. they found out that i was a strong very proud women and it scared them off. sounds like they are scared of you being strong and knowing what you want. just stand tall and dont jump into something that you really dont want, wait, when the right one comes you'll know.

Answer 6

throw him out and try looking in different places for boy friends since you are finding losers where you are looking now. There is nothing wrong with you other than the fact that you may need to build up your self esteem so that you don't settle for losers and find people who want to make a relationship with you work instead.

Answer 7

you are still young, don't go looking for a relationship let it happen
let love find you.When you are lease expected it will,work on you
first so that when that right person come along ,the gift you give him will be like no other,get into a relationship with God and everything will fall in place

Answer 8

Four weeks and you are living with him already? You seem to jump in at the deep end. Relax. Date each other, go for meals, to the cinema, park. Let him walk you home BUT don't let him in. Keep him waiting. If he is interested this won't annoy him.

Answer 9

You need to get rid of him and stop worrying about men and worry about yourself. Who are you , what do you want - learn your bad patterns and change them. Only you can. Your self esteem is shot. You have to like yourself first. Spend time getting to know who you are and get rid of the JUNK. When you respect yourself then you will find men who respect you and if you don't - at least you will be happy with yourself.

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with you. Maybe you are being at the wrong places at the wrong time. Everything has it own time, you time for love is coming, maybe it will come when you are 40 or more, but it is comeing.