My husband has two children, a son and a daughter. The son wants ot live with us. The daughter wants to stay with her mom. When my husband was going thru his divorce the son wanted to live with him but the mom wouldn't have it and the son gave in and lived with her. Now he REALLY wants to live with us, but we aren't sure how that works. We've heard that he has the right to make that decision but then we've heard that the courts won't seperate the children. I hate to seperate the children but both are so depressed at their moms. And we know the mom is going to try to minipulate our sons decision, which she has already tried.
2007-01-24 01:28:52 · 11 answers · asked by pudderhon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he is 14, it's okay and he knows what he wants and doesn't want. Boys need their dads. He's reaching out so do the right thing and help the kid out. His mother sounds like she is ruining his life...he needs a chance. It is such an important age. Unfortunately it sounds like the daughter is staying our of sympathy...a big mistake. She should be hitting the books and having a good time growing up with positive things in her life. She is being manipulated by a selfish, angry, lonely mother who needs a lot of help...she is sucking the life out of these kids and just getting through the teens years is traumatic enough. They need good mentors to get through it and she is not it.
2007-01-24 01:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
check the laws in your state, the ages where children can make the decision as to what parent they want to live with vary. After that, then follow through on what the chlld wants. What I did with my step daughters was very simple - we approached it as a trial basis - for 1 entire school year, and then decided to revisit the idea after the school year was over. See, kids aways think things will be better at the other house, but when they are made to go to school, do their homework, have chores, they sometimes see that it wasn't all bad where they were. Plus it's not good for them to transfer in and out of schools mid year. It will give your step son a good base for deciding after that period if he wants to stay or not. And courts separate children all the time, they will do what is best for the individual child - not the children as a group or any adults involved.
2007-01-24 10:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 he has the ‘right’ to decide where he lives. Until then the judge decides. Depending on stepson’s age, the judge might take his wishes into consideration, but the judge takes other things into consideration as well and is not required to abide by stepson’s wishes. So the judge can say ‘no’. The ‘don’t want to separate siblings’ issue likely depends on the specific judge. But I would think that would be more of an issue with younger children.
2007-01-24 09:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how old the boy is.. i think you need to take the advice of a lawyer.. living in diffrent houses doesnt mean that the kids will be seperated...and i also think that hid dad has the right for having his son in his house.. if u cant do this by compromising with the mum then the court will...
i wish u the best..
2007-01-24 10:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the state that you live in and the age of the child. In some states the judge will ask the child which parent the child wants to live with.
2007-01-24 09:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the tug of war continues.
Instead of considering their needs, all of the ADULTS need to put their own selfish desires aside,sit down together & consider what is best for the children.
All it takes is for one party to mess things up, & then it can only be settled in court.
2007-01-24 09:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your Son and get a lawyer to help answer these questions!
Best of Luck!
2007-01-24 09:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this myself. I am currently 16, and I have decided to live with my dad after my mom won custody.
It is very simple, actually...once the child is 13 ( maybe younger, depending upon where you live) he has the RIGHT to decide where he lives, and just needs to express that desire to a judge.
2007-01-24 09:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by Matt C 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ask the attorney, and tell the son whatever he wants to do you will understand
2007-01-24 09:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer, he needs to go where he will be happy.
2007-01-24 10:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋