im 14 and pregnant. i was raped by two men and they are currently going through the process of going to jail. When i have my baby they are doing dna testing on him to see which one is the father. But what if neither one is and its some other older guy who fathered my baby?? will I still be able to keep my baby please answer this Q with the best of your knowledge and thank you so much all answers will help
2007-01-24 01:26:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
im 14 and pregnant i was RAPED by two guys and they are in the process of going to jail I will be able to take care of my child i know this for sure but when he gets here they are doing dna testing on him to see which one is the father but what if neither one is the father and its some other older guys? Will i still be able to keep my baby??
2007-01-24 01:45:06 · update #1
Despite your age, no one has rights to your baby except you and perhaps the father. These are called "parental rights." In the facts you posted, the rights of the rapists are non-existent. The "older guy" could have some claim--at least to visitation. Unless the state files an action to terminate your parental rights, you will be able to keep your baby. The state would have to prove you are an unfit mother to take your baby. To prove you are an unfit mother, the state would have to show you abused or neglected your child after he/she is born. The fact that you are only 14 is not relevant unless you cannot care for your child.
2007-01-24 01:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by David M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good that those butt holes are going to jail. You can keep your baby it's not up to the court were your baby will go,if you are not ready to keep your baby and many people would say that you are not at the tender age of 14 you can always consider whats called an open adoption where YOU can pick the adopting parents and still be in the child's life as a second Mommy or as a family friend , some people are willing to do that. It's just something that you can look into. If you are going to choose to keep the baby you really need to consider if you are able to take that huge responsibility on and being a parent is hard no matter what age you are.You are only fourteen and that is so young you have your whole life a head of you,ask your attorney what your options might be. If you wanted to keep your baby or choosing a family.It may also depend on what Country you are in if you are in America then it's your choice.Good luck on what ever YOU decide.Please stay away from older men if they are messing with you sweetie then they are NOT good people.Hope this helps you .
2007-01-24 09:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by Super Mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of help available for you--please take advantage of every opportunity to get help. Crisis counseling will be available for free--ask the DA's office how to get a referral. Legal Aid is also available for free--look up "legal aid" in the phone book or online.
A lot of people will try to tell you what to do. Don't worry about what anyone thinks of you. Keep thinking about yourself and your baby and do what you feel you need to do for both of you. If you can get a family member or good friend to go with you to your appointments, this would be great, but if they aren't available, don't give up--go on your own.
I wish you the best in this situation--may you and your baby be well and healthy, and may you heal from this trauma. Other people have survived situations like this and gone on to live very full, happy lives (Oprah Winfrey went through a similar horrible situation and look how well she turned out.) Don't give up on yourself!
2007-01-24 09:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Yogini108 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that happened to you. I certainly hope those two scumbags go to jail. Are you in rape counciling? No offense but, Where in hell are your PARENTS?? You're 14? You are just a baby yourself! The "older" man will probably be going to jail for statutory rape also. I don't know if you could keep the child, but I do know that you should consider an abortion or adoption. You are way to0 young to try and raise a child, you have only just begun life yourself. For crying out loud, Go see a planned parenthood councilor ASAP!
2007-01-24 09:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by SGT. D 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The only way this could possibly happen is if you had sex with this "older guy" as well. I don't know if you'll be able to keep you baby, not because of the rape, but because of your age.
2007-01-24 09:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By older guy I guess you are talking about a child molester, I do not think any one would come forward for that charge, however you need to stay away from older men. Sorry about the ordeal of your rape.
2007-01-24 09:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by 007 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Social services may take the child. Also, you should consider adoption. You're too young and obviously not in a good situation to raise a child.
2007-01-24 09:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by BNKsMomma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but why would you put yourself in that position? Do the baby a favor and consider adoption. You still have plenty of growing up to do, and the baby wil be better off. Plus, you'd make a childless couple very happy. Consider it.
2007-01-24 09:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by zebj25 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You need to seek the guidance and counsel of family and friends on this one and we'll pray that you stay strong and may the scars heal on such a terrible event.
2007-01-24 09:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So lemme get this straight...you've been raped by two men, they are 'in the process of going to jail', DNA testing will be done once the baby is born...and there's a possibility it might not be either one of them? Have you called Maury Povich yet to book a spot on his show?
2007-01-24 09:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋