My boyfriend just recently broke up with me, we lived together so ultimatley i moved out, our relationship was rocky due to the fact he was never home he was always out late or out drinking with his friends he said he wanted to marry me and have a family but i was the one sitting home alone all the time his friends were always number one on his priority list after numerous fights about it and him not correcting the problem i gave him a choice to either come home and be with me or not he chose to break up with me, i know he loves me and was completely devoted to me but i was tired of being alone and neglected, i just want to be single now but i love my ex to death he's asking for 2nd chance he says i'm his life and he'll get better and make all the changes? I need help i'm lost and confused I'm semi scared i'll loose him forever and end up alone!
2007-01-24 01:19:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actions speak louder than words. Your biggest mistake was living with him. He had everything he wanted. You in his bed, no commitment, friends to party with, no responsibilities to anyone. do you really want a man like that? That's not the definition of a man. A real man wouldn't take advantage of you like that. If you lose him forever, it might be a blessing in disguise. There is someone better out there for you and he may be waiting until this guy is out of your life.
2007-01-24 01:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Thia R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything out of fear of being alone, or you risk accepting any type of treatment. I think you made the right choice under the circumstances you described. If a guy wants to be with his friends instead of spending time with you or including you in the time he spends with friends you have no choice other than to leave. You were lonely and neglected. Your feelings toward him aren't likely to change anytime soon and that means you're vulnerable. So if you decide to give things another chance, I hope you take it slow. Walk through your fear, get support from your friends, and think through what is actually best for you. You have more options than you think you do and you're stronger than you think you are at this point. The pain is fresh and time alone will help you sort things out. Be good to yourself.
2007-01-24 09:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know your ex better than anyone here. If you feel he is sincere enough to be trusted then take him back but I suggest that you have him curb the drinking. Drinking ultimately leads to no good either for you or for him in the long run. It causes people to things they normally wouldn't do.
Personally, I can forgive someone once but the moment they do these things again, they are gone for good. Do what your heart tells you, you'll never know any other way.
2007-01-24 09:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him that he has to show you that he is going to change and then you might or will give him a 2 chance.
2007-01-24 09:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Juerma Terry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both have things you like to do tougher, bowling, moves, eating out, hobbies, family, and for him to stops being with the guys after work etc., your going to need this interests to have a good relation ship .and don't forget you each should have your own interest apart to, time by yourself, bowling with the guys , seeing a move with the girls ..
Good Luck...................Mel................
2007-01-24 10:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by Melvin S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your worried about ending up alone? Uh, were'nt you alone when you were WITH him? I say he was given the opportunity to change and he blew it....Move on!
2007-01-24 09:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋