Ok for quit sometime this guy has been trying to get my attention. I didn't notice at first because I was involved in a relationship. I've been single for about two months now. We have talked and exchanged numbers. I won tickets to a concert that will take place on Valentines Day. I asked him to be my date. Since he is a diplomatic security officer he is required to work late shifts sometimes. He told me he will let me know today if he can attend. The only problem is most of my close friends who are also my age are telling me that he is too old. I feel as though age isn't anything but a number. I just want to see what he's about I'm not really looking for anything. What do you guys think?
2007-01-24 01:08:41 · 12 answers · asked by EAZY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think age is all that significant but I would be a bit careful about the situation.
Make sure you know what it is that both of you are looking for in any potential relationship. If he's 35, no doubt he's enjoying the fact that a 22-year old is interested in him. In fact, he's loving it and he's telling his mates, believe me.
You just have to be careful that you know what he wants from you and that you don't allow yourself to get hurt.
Having said that, if you just want to see "what he's about" as you say, and are headstrong, then why not.
He may not be like that at all, but just tread carefully in case he does turn out to be someone that uses you as his "look what I've got" trophy.
Hope it works out.
2007-01-24 01:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by Cagey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be a little too old, but 13 years difference isn't too bad. If you are both over the age of 18, then you two can legally date and have a romantic relationship and there is nothing anyone can do to stop it. Be open minded and give the guy a try. Who knows? He might surprise you and vice versa. Not to advocate that you disrespect your friend's wishes, but who you date is really none of their business anyway.
The thing to be aware of dating someone who is more than 10 year older or younger than you are is that you start running into generational issues. At 35 year old, his wants, needs, desires and personal tastes may differ from yours and will reflect that of someone his age.
2007-01-24 09:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not. Unless you can't make a single decision without your friends input, don't worry about it, especially if you aren't considering anything serious right now, just make sure you let him know that. Have fun being single and don't rush into anything. If it turns into a relationship good, if not just make a good friend. It might seem like a big difference now but once you get to know someone and you have a lot in common you will forget how far apart you are in age.
2007-01-24 09:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by trinigal33167 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your friends' opinions. If you like him and you feel like he is digging you then go for it. As long as you can drink you can think. You are over 21 so you are matured some, at least enough to know if it is wise for you. Just remember there may be some things that you see that let you know he has been around for a while and moving on up, but if you like his personality then the age thing should not even bother you or even cross your mind.
2007-01-24 09:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i agree with you that age is just a number....but with age come maturity...now i am not saying that you are immature i am saying that the two of you are at different stages of life. At 35 the only thing going through this guys head is that he is going to get a piece of young *** I think that you should forget this guy and find someone close to your own age and have fun in your 20's
2007-01-24 09:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by lscudds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 and I've liked men who were in their 30's. Personally, I don't think it's a big deal. Go by his personality and how he treats you- not his age. If he was, say 30 years older than you or something, then that would be one thing, but for you to be in your 20's and him in his 30's, I don't think it's a big deal. Good luck!
2007-01-24 09:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by BNKsMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him go for it. Don't forget though that if he's 35, he might be looking for different things like having a family, staying in a lot, going to bed early. If you don't mind living a slightly older lifestyle and you can get him to be a bit more youthful, I say good luck
2007-01-24 09:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by glim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in love,age does not matter,there are many couples who has husbands or boyfriends a decade older than them.for me,i had a few relationships which my ex was older.it really depends on whether u like mature guys or not.sometimes older guys are better cuz they have experienced many things in life.it really depends on what u want rather than what people think.
2007-01-24 09:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by kabayan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree the age difference is not really a consideration --- if you like him enough to go out then see how you get on ---- it may be just one date and it fizzles out ---- go and enjoy with my best wishes
2007-01-24 09:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is to old for you. 28 should be the oldest you should go out with.
2007-01-24 09:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋