4mths. I decided to move out and get my own place and date her still. But she decided we should breakup. I have a four month old daughter as well. I explained to her I needed my own place so that my daughter could visit me more often.My baby-mama wasnt too keen about the idea of having a new relationship but she accepted it. Soon after I moved out my current girlfriend and I broke up and i didnt know why. I asked her to explain to me and she wouldnt tell me much. I asked her was their a another guy and she said no she wasnt interested in another relationship. She recently told me she has decided to live her life in christ. I really think she has another man secretly, but she insists she is not interested in one right now, no sex no nothing. She wants to focus more on her two kids and herself. She totally dont want me to ask any questions about her personal life at this point. I ask her out she refuses. I try to talk she gets mad if I talk about us. What do you guys think is happening?
2007-01-24 01:04:29 · 13 answers · asked by Gerald H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when you move in with someone that means something to most people. when you moved out that showed her how you feel about the relationship.
2007-01-24 01:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has probably finds you unsuitbale for her or she is tired of the relationship. Maybe she just wants to focus on her own life and kids now. I felt the same way too after my divorce. I have several BF but all are substitutues to satisfy my lonliness. I think you should move on. She can live with or without you. No point pondering over whether she has someone else or not. It's no longer important cos she doesn't loves you anymore. Unless, she calrify that she still wants you back if not, I think you should move on and focus more on your 4 mths old baby.
2007-01-24 01:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is not about YOU at all. It sounds like she is trying to get her life together, and doesnt want to be in any relationships at all. If you really want to be in this girl's life, the best you can do is back down. Be her friend, spend time with her in ways that aren't considered dating or romantic. Tell her you understand that she needs space, and you want to be her friend, and be there for her IF she needs you. Also, watch for the things she is into (like Church, since you said she is into Christ) and see if she is willing to do these things with you. If you hang around as a friend long enough, when she is ready to be in a relationship again, it will be you she looks for one in. I hope this helps, and good luck.
2007-01-24 01:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, like I told you on the phone, I believe that she is telling the truth. I have been through the exact same thing. I can relate to her. You do need to focus on your new baby right now. I know that this breakup can be hard on you, but just put your time and attention in your child. Put your child first and move forward. Don't hold on to someone who wants to let go. It will take time to get over and through it, but you will be just fine.
2007-01-24 02:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, she thought you were going to marry her, but then you moved out. She has moved on to look for her husband. Just concentrate on you and your baby. Be a good dad and don't worry about women right now. When the right one comes along, things wont be so complicated.
2007-01-24 01:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guaranteed there is another guy, even if its just in its preliminary stages. It probably someone you know as well, someone close to you.
Move on, don't jeopardize the quality of your life or your families for this girl. If you love something, see it free, if it comes back it was meant to be, if not, their loss and you get to move on.
2007-01-24 01:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl it sounds like she just needs time and if needed in the future a shoulder to cry on. She may that she hasn't got you to herself at all but just give it time.
2007-01-24 01:10:35 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats happening is she is showing you that she doesnt want to be with you anymore. YOU need to understand that it is over and stop trying to get with her. Focus on your child and your life.
2007-01-24 01:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is mad cuase she thinks that the apt that you have is for when you baby mama come over with the kid, she propbably thinks that you 2 are still getting freaky.
ask her maybe she might tell you what is going on.
2007-01-24 01:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is telling you the truth...so leave her alone. she wants to focus on the children , then that what she should do, why question that!!!
2007-01-24 01:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by dthsmx5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋