problems trusting?

Question

im 18 yrs old and my bf is 19 and well, we're each others first real bf and gf and ive never been in any relationship before and im already noticing that i have alot of insecurities and i have trouble trusting him.....hes not a bad boy or anything like that....hes never cheated on me and hes not the flirtatious type, in fact he is the type thats very shy around girls....anyways im still having problems trusting him cuz my parents never had a good relationship (my dad never loved my mom and cheated on her) and i have been brought up to believe that most men are liars and cheaters.....anyways back to my bf.... he does like to drink and party and even though he is a virgin and has never had a gf before (in fact...the last girl he kissed before me was 4 yrs ago...lol) i still worry about this cuz he is going to mexico over spring break with his best friend and his best friend's gf....he has invited me to come along but i cant go....any advice on how to build confidence and trust?

Answer 1

its sound like your crazy about this guy. i would say you have nothing to worry about to be honest he sounds lovely and would never hurt you. All i would suggest is keep yourself busy while hes away and don't thyink about it if you no in the back of your head he will be faithful then it will all be fine. remember hes not your mum and dad hes the man you want to be with and i would say your the girl he wants to be with.

Answer 2

They sometimes say a person who accuses or thinks their man is cheating is in fact cheating themselves. Are you?
It doesn't seem like you have any reason to be insecure or worried if he's cheating. He invites you to do major things, he's a virgin, and he commits to being your boyfriend. It doesn't get much better. Take advantage of the time you guys have before you push him away. You need to just let go of those emotions. Don't take out what happened with your parents on him, he sounds like a great guy and doesn't deserve it. He'll end up leaving if it continues or escalates. The next time you feel insecure or think he's cheating try to change it to confidence or if he's not around then try picking up on a hobby and do that when you have those feelings.
Good luck!

Answer 3

To build confidence is hard but it's all about believing that you are worth being loved and respected. Always look at your best qualities not jus the physical ones by the way coz those are temporal. You can ask your friends to help you find good stuff about yourself. And know that there is a reason why you are his girlfriend and not anyone else.

Then the trust thing. You can being to trust him when you are confident in yourself and communicate openly with him. However, don't spill your guts out too much coz it might overburden him. So talk about your relationship with him, to him. Talk about things that really matter and then trust will develop.

Answer 4

trust is a hard issue when your father is that way... i know cuz mine is the same way. you're just watching out for yourself not wanting to fall for someone like you father so you don't end up in what your mom went through. sit your bf down and tell him you have trust issues and explain why and tell him you need reassurance that you can trust him cuz it's really hard for you to do. i'm sure your bf will understand that. deep down you want to trust him and you do a bit but you're afraid of giving him all of your trust because you don't want him to break it. i don't think he will. i think you'll be fine. and you guys will make it. it might still take some time for you to trust him completely but you should trust him until he does something that disobeys your trust in him. if he hasn't so far you have nothing to worry about. best of luck. email me if you have anything else you want to talk about i was in your shoes before when i was 18 as well.

Answer 5

Well you are not your parents you can learn to trust your boy friend