im 18 yrs old and my bf is 19 and well, we're each others first real bf and gf and ive never been in any relationship before and im already noticing that i have alot of insecurities and i have trouble trusting him.....hes not a bad boy or anything like that....hes never cheated on me and hes not the flirtatious type, in fact he is the type thats very shy around girls....anyways im still having problems trusting him cuz my parents never had a good relationship (my dad never loved my mom and cheated on her) and i have been brought up to believe that most men are liars and cheaters.....anyways back to my bf.... he does like to drink and party and even though he is a virgin and has never had a gf before (in fact...the last girl he kissed before me was 4 yrs ago...lol) i still worry about this cuz he is going to mexico over spring break with his best friend and his best friend's gf....he has invited me to come along but i cant go....any advice on how to build confidence and trust?
2007-01-24 00:49:21 · 7 answers · asked by amanda s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get over yourself! you need to let go of your parents relationship & get a grip on yours ! If you dont have trust , you have nothing
2007-01-24 00:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by boatworker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is not all men are liars or cheaters but if you don't start trusting him then that can be a basis for losing him.
Just realize that your family history is just that, and start trusting in the small areas, it can grow and mature with time and wisdom.
Take a step back and see how he does in Mexico-let him tell you what he did while there, listen without judgement. See this trip as his opportunity to reaffirm his committment/intent to you.
2007-01-24 00:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by singsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you merely could desire to offer her the earnings of the doubt. If she says she on no account could then ok. And if she does than it extremely is it, the relationship is over. you won't be able to nit %. at a man or woman or you will over think of each and everything. supply it of project or if that's bothering you than consistent with danger you mustn't go there interior the 1st place. it may be somewhat of a protracted distant relationship so have faith ought to be there or you will consistently be thinking or thinking 'what if'
2016-11-26 22:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one, you just have to trust him. He has never given you any reason not to, and he is not your dad. Try to make your relationship a positive one.
2007-01-24 00:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about dads and mum relationship. you just have to trust your guy for a perfect and healthy relationship ok. no matter the distance trust and have confidence in him alright.
2007-01-24 00:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jecs O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont base yourself on what has gone on in your parents marraige. leave that behind because you are not your mom and he is not your dad. enjoy this time!!
2007-01-24 00:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess its hard with a dad who was not a good role model but don,t compare them.
2007-01-24 00:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by denise g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋