Me and my mom take care of my grandma. For months, my mom and me have not had a decent night sleep. Grandma keeps waking up every 30 min. to use the restroom, drink a sip of water, or because she is not tired anymore and wants to go watch TV. My mother has lost many jobs because of my grandma being in the hospital so often for little minor things, so im the one that has been paying all the bills at home. My mom has brothers but, lets just say they turned the other cheek on us. When we give grandma all this attention, she takes us for granted and behaves worse with us. My mom cries to me everyday telling me that grandma doesn't let her sleep and on top of this all, my grandma does not want to do anything for herself. And no she is not depressed for behaving this way. I hope you can help us out with some good suggestions. Thanks for reading my complaint. And sorry for any typos.
2007-01-24 00:41:52 · 8 answers · asked by None of b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Boy, everyone is quick to jump on the nursing home kick.
Sure there are some good homes out there but they also have some employees that aren't so good. Can you bear the thought of your grandma possibly being abused?
Have you sat down and talked to your grandmother and asked her what may be bothering her and why she is acting out like this? Have you taken into consideration that she may feel like she is a burden to you and your mother. I mean since everyone else has already turned there back on her.
Sure it can be a stressful taking care of someone, but think of it this way at least she is being taken care of by someone that loves her. Maybe you could hire a home health care nurse to come in a few days a week to relieve some of the stress of taking care of her.
I have worked in a nursing home facility and I have seen some of these things firsthand. I myself would never abuse an elderly person because I was brought up better than that. But there are others out there that will. I have also seen the sadness on the faces of the residents because no family comes to visit, it is like they just don't have time for them anymore it is very very heartbreaking.
2007-01-27 21:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, the only thing to do is, it is time to put G-Mom in a nursing home, just let them take her social security check, and if she does not get that, then go to social service, and they will pay for her to be their. Look around for a nursing home, of your liking. You must be emotional drained, and you can get to that point. Check on this for your own sanity. Discuss this with her other children, ask them if they can take her for a while, or what do they think you should do, but make it plain, that you can't do it any longer, now it is their turn to help, if you put it to them that way, like they need to take her, then I am sure they will agree to put her in a nursing home! I hope this all works out for you!
2007-01-24 01:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as it hurts take her to a home. it is not fair to your or your mom. And as far as th other family members that have walked away tell them to grab spine and help out. better yet take your grandma to the brothers for a visit and leave her there. i think a home would be best for all involved if your grandma can no longer physically or mentally take care of herself. the living conditions you are under know will only get worse.
2007-01-24 12:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by jhdjkhblpk;mvhyf nbjhghbmnbjgb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure it replaced into propose. bear in techniques while people become older they do no longer experience properly and the caretakers get wiped out and pissed off. there is not any longer something left for them yet ailment and sorrow. they might have been very loving people at one time. I had a neighbor who used to look after an elderly couple who have been given in a combat over a sweater and went after one yet another with a cane. It happens. call transforming into older sevices earlier somebody gets injury.
2016-12-16 12:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by moncalieri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear this,and i no you don't want to put her in a home.but some times you have to do what you got to do.your family has turn there backs and will not help out,your mom is tired and depress.and she could be out there going to work or something and fall asleep while driving.she or you do not need that kind of stress.ask the rest of the family to take her and if they dont ,put her in a home.or rest home
2007-01-24 00:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by rebecca_autry2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put her in a home so she can be cared for by people who have the time, dont let it ruin your lives, she can be happy in a safe home and you can visit.
2007-01-24 00:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by вℓαмє_¢αиα∂α 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like granny needs to go to a rest home, she obviously needs more care than you are able to financially or physically give.
2007-01-24 02:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the first guy i think a home is the best place
2007-01-24 00:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋